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  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    I'll bet you get it before Monday.
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    JJONES, go play lotto!

    I just went to the gym got and was getting in the car and bam! I am sooo happy, cramps and all!! Ok so quick question...I have this monitor that you are suppose to start on day 1, that means I should start today with this monitor right? I have the monitor and then a regular clear blue package. I want to use both. So this is clearly day 1 right?
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Hey JJONES,
    What day was it that you tested and got the positive test? Today is 8dpiui for me.. i'm due to start my period on Wed and was thinking about doing a test then.. it would be day 12! How are you feeling??
    Haven't thought much about the flue shot myself... I've heard that all pregnant women have to get it though. I probably just do what ever my doctor suggests.

    Jana.. so glad you finially started!!!! Yes the day you start your period is DAY 1 of your cycle. So whats this monitor your talking about??
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    It's the clear blue easy monitor...Its the thing you buy and then you buy the 30 sticks?? I think I figured it out. I will also use the regular CBE test. So my doctor said I will go natural for the 1st three IUIs (lets hope its 1). So I have blood test monday and then just sit and wait (a lot of waiting!) to ovulate. Did you treat your body pregnant at the start of the cycle, another word, no alcohol, no sushi, low caffeine etc?
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Hi Jana,

    Oh.. so your talking about the ovulation pred kits right? I didn't start mine until day 11.

    Yes.. I've been treating my body like its pregnant. The only thing I struggle with is caffeine. So that is something I have to work on but I am very conscious of it.

    I get my nails done.... and I've heard that its bad to do this when your pregnant. Do you know??

    I hope its 1 IUI for you too.... don't we all! I think the key is to keep positive but be prepared for a few trys (easier said than done I KNOW!)
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    Hmmm no i think its different than the regular kit. It's a device called Clear Plan. My friend used it so I put in a call to her. I think the acrylic at the salons is the bad thing. But I am not 100% sure, I see pregnant women in the salon all the time. I heard mixed stuff from everyone, some people say no hair dying, others say its ok if there is no bleach in it? I am going to go on amazon and order some books. So far all I have really read is about the procedure, books like Knock Yourself Up, and Helping the Stork. I am drinking coffee but 1 cup a day I think that I will start with half decaf half regular. I think you are allowed 200 mg a day right?
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    Jana: So happy it finally came. Now you are cruising! I don't know anything about the ovulation kits. My doctor manipulated my system and took care of everything. I was lucky. Good luck. I will keep my fingers crossed. Oh yeah, I treated my body as if I were pregnant at least a month before I even had my first IUI. I think it's best to get your body as healthy as possible.

    JPransk: I tested on day 11 and got a negative. I tested on day 12 and thought I got a negative, but when I looked at the test that night, there was a faint pink line. I wasn't sure if it was valid or not. I tested on day 13 and got a positive right away. I'm feeling great except for a stabbing pain by my right ovary that just doesn't want to go away. I'm also pretty tired, but overall I really can't complain. I go in for my 6 week ultrasound on Tuesday. I can't wait. I should be able to see the baby then. So far it still doesn't seem real to me, but I figure once I see the baby it will hit me like a ton of bricks.
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    HI jjjones: Wednesday will be the day I'm supposed to start my period which will be day 12 for me. If I don't start then I will take a preg test wed morning. But yours came negative so hmmmm.... which test did you use? I bought the clear blue easy test...
    I'm so excited for you..... how exciting to go see the baby for the first time on Tuesday. KUP!
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    Hi, How are you girls doing? I had my blood test this morning and an ultra sound. I had 10 follicles on both sides. The dominant (it think thats what its called) follicle measured 12? I have no idea what that means. Anyway, dr says I am to come back in on Nov 2 (day 10) and they will look again. Does this sound normal?
  • MzDnyaMzDnya Posts: 18
    Hi Ladies,

    I first would like to say "thank you" for all the words of encouragements I received last week. I was really down on myself but after the initial shock, I decided to try again using IVF this time. My period was due to start this past Saturday, but I'm late. I'm praying that my doctor's office made a mistake and tested me too soon. I'm going to wait until this weekend to do another PG test if my period still has not come down.

    MzDnya
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    jpransk: I used first response. yah, don't be discouraged if it's negative. It may just be too early, but I'll cross my fingers for you!!

    janabny: I think they look for a follicle to grow to about 18 to consider it mature. It sounds like you have a lot going on down there! They just need some time to grow. So far it sounds normal.

    mzdnya: I'm glad you are going to give it another chance. Are you jumping to IVF just to increase your chances? I thought about doing that if it didn't work the first time. I hope your insurance covers it. So do you think you really may be pregnant?
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    Hi jjones I thought it sounded good but this is all new to me! If I am on day 3 I guess they have time to grow. I am so excited and I know even if it doesn't happen this month it will happen. My doc said they like to see 7-10 follicles so I guess that's good. My one issue is that I am going to Columbia in NY and they require a culture. When my OBGYN did my exam I assumed they did a culture but there is no record of one, just a pap and urinalysis. So I have to have a culture prior to Columbia doing the IUI. I scheduled a culture for Weds with my regular OBGYN but I may still be bleeding and I am wondering if they can do one when you are bleeding? My last culture before was 6 months ago and I am not sure if that's acceptable to Columbia. I put a call into them and the nurse should get back to me tomorrow. Does anyone know if they can do a culture during your period?
    jjones how are you feeling?
    jpransk are you hanging in there?
    mzdyna im praying they were wrong!
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Hi jana, on day 12 of my cycle i went in for an ultrasound and was at 17, 3 days later i had a positive surge. Jjones is right.. sounds like you have a lot going on down there.. so prob just needs time to grow. My doc says it ususally grows 1-2 a day. Not sure about the period and doing a culture.. sorry.
    I'm doing ok. Was really nauseaus last nite... in bed by 7 but feel fine this morning. I'm afraid this is all in my head and maybe in not pregnant. Today is day 11 I didn't take a pregnancy test this morning all though I thought about it. I will test tomorrow morning... (keeping my fingers crossed i don't start my period).
    GOod luck all... hope your feeling ok jjones! Good luck today with the ultrasound. mzdyna.. i'm so glad to hear you decided to give it another shot... and who know maybe the doc is wrong. Can you take another test before this weekend? The anxiety would be driving my nuts!
    Good luck girls!
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    Janabny: I'm sorry, but I have no idea about your culture question. In fact, I really have no idea what you are talking about! I am really a dunce when it comes to all of this!

    Jpransk: It's possible you are having signs of pregnancy. YOu are almost done with the wait!! I know it is torture. It may or may not show up by day 12 or even 13. Just today the nurse was saying how surprised she was that mine showed positive early. My 6wk utlrasound went great today!! Everything looks perfect so far and my numbers are really good. It looked like a little bean! I go again next Tuesday for another ultrasound. They said it would look a lot different.
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    jjones: I am a dunce too not to worry! I think all is ok...I have a culture from 2008 that might be good and the doctor is going to try and do one tomorrow. Hopefully all will be ok. How exciting 6 weeks!! So you get a heartbeat next week? I am so excited for you and the little bean!

    jjpransk: I am thinking of you and hoping you get a BFP tomorrow! Thank you so much for all yoour updates its like a preview of whats to come :)
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Jjones-Your bean brought tears to my eyes.. it's just so amazing to me how our little angels begin and end in our arms! I'm so excited for you. How come your going in so often for the ultrasound... your OB does it? I'm so excited for you:) I will try and not get dissapointed tomorrow or get my hopes up. I have to do it though.... But I know the tell all will forsure be Friday ALL THOUGH I CANT GET THE RESULTS TIL SAT. OMG!!!

    Jana-Good luck tomorrow with the culture... soon youll be were i'm at and hopefully soon after you'll be where jjones is at:)

    Good luck to all of us!! Baby prayers and wishes!!
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Jjones-Your bean brought tears to my eyes.. it's just so amazing to me how our little angels begin and end in our arms! I'm so excited for you. How come your going in so often for the ultrasound... your OB does it? I'm so excited for you:) I will try and not get dissapointed tomorrow or get my hopes up. I have to do it though.... But I know the tell all will forsure be Friday ALL THOUGH I CANT GET THE RESULTS TIL SAT. OMG!!!

    Jana-Good luck tomorrow with the culture... soon youll be were i'm at and hopefully soon after you'll be where jjones is at:)

    Good luck to all of us!! Baby prayers and wishes!!
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    JPRANSK I have been thinking about you all day. Hope all is good.

    I went to my OBGYN today and for the first time met with a woman doctor (my regular doctor wasn't in). OMG total difference, I loved her. And her nurse is a single mother by choice! I was so happy. They did the culture for me, it's basically a swab, feels like a pap. They said they will have results by Monday to my RE so all should be fine. They also gave me the flu shot. Apparently once I am pregnant I will also need the swine one, I forget the name HPN1? Anyway, all quiet till Monday from me.
    I have to say I am just on cloud nine getting this process going, I know I need to prepare myself that it won't work the first time but just getting to this point is so amazing. I feel like it's Christmas!

    How are all you girls doing?
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    Hi Jana,
    I'm glad things went so well today and glad to hear you like your nurse/doctor. That makes all the difference.. considering we put all our trust and everything into them.
    Well this morning I tested.. BFN :( Then like 2 hours later I started my period I think. Its been light/spotting all day. So my first thought was I started my period... I'm not pregnant. But now I'm thinking could it have been implantation bleeding? I think its too late for that given today is day 12 for me but i'm holding out hope i still have a chance of being pregnant.
    I will test again tomorrow morning. So dissapointing when you totally think something is going on in your body (and I totally did) but its all in your head.
    Anyways... I will test tomorrow morning and see if I get the same result as today.
    Good luck Jana.. so glad to hear you are so excited about things!
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    Jpransk I hope its just implantation. I don't know of enough about it. Maybe someone else does. Just know that it will happen. I don't know how old you are but I will be 37 in January and my RE says 1-3 times. Stay positive either way, we will get what we want. I am pulling for you! :)
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    JanaB: Don't even worry about preparing yourself for it not to work. Why not just think nothing but positive thoughts? If things don't turn out the way you hope, you will deal with it. In the meantime, put all of your energy into the positive. This is such an exciting time for you!

    JRAnsk: Did you test again? I don't want to get your hopes up, but it IS possible that you are still pregnant despite the spotting. I really, really hope it's not your period. If it is, keep your chin up and just try again.

    I'm not actually seeing an OB yet. I went to a fertility specialist. I didn't have any issues that I know of, but I am 38. I am fortunate enough to have one of the best fertility specialists in the country near me, and since my insurance covers everything and I didn't need a referral, I figured why not go straight to him!
  • JPRANSKJPRANSK Posts: 94
    BPN... I started my period this morning. I don't care what anyone says... THIS IS HARD!!
    I was so positive I was pregnant... I know reality is that it is slim getting pregnant the first time but that it can happen (like you jjones). I was so sure I was pregnant. I was really bummed today.. but talked to my nurse (who i absoultely love) and i'm going in tomorrow for an ultrasound and then i'm gonna go on clomid soon. THis last IUI was just natural.
    I'm eager to get the ball rolling again and yes I will keep my chin up. I'm 30 Jana.
    Well hope all is well with everyone!
    Stay positive and good things will happen!!
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    Jpransk: I am so very sorry. I was really pulling for you. Good things will happen you are right. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Jjones: What an inspirational thought. You are right. I need to think positive. It makes me nervous to be positive and that's just so very silly of me. How are you feeling?

    Jpransk, please let me know how tomorrow goes.
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    jpransk: Sorry to hear that. I think it's probably a good idea to try clomid. I don't know if I mentioned it previously, but I used it (even though I had no idea if I needed it). I didn't see a real downside. I would gladly welcome twins. It very well may have made the difference.

    janabny: I'm feeling pretty good; thanks for asking. I'm pretty tired as I have been working extra hours. Starting next week I have to go to my neighbor's house every weekday morning from 5-6 to be with their son. The mother is working out of town, and the father leaves for work at 5. Apparantly the babysitter can't get there until 6. This is going to be brutal!! And it's for an indefinite amount of time!
  • Always HopefulAlways Hopeful Posts: 18
    Hi All,

    I'm a newbie to all of this. Mine is the typical sad story of a woman who put her career first. I was also waiting for prince charming who never showed up. The years flew by without my even realizing it. So now I'm an old African American lady of 44. I will be 45 in December, and I am just about to start the process. I'm waiting for my next period, and it looks like I'll be taking Clomid and HCG injections. I'm so scared at my age of any abnormalities/syndromes, but I am trying to think positively. I wish us all luck in having healthy, happy babies.
  • JanaBNYJanaBNY Posts: 70
    always: congrats on your decision! So exciting! Positive thoughts :)

    jjones: that is BRUTAL what a good neighbor you are! Hope it doesn't last too long. I am on day 7 of my cycle. I am exciting to see what my RE sees on Monday. Hoping my follicles are growing and cooperating!

    jpransk: how did the ultrasound go today?
  • jjonesjjones Posts: 27
    OMG...what a horrible day. My stomach is absolutely killing me; I'm not sure if I should be worried. I think it's half from stess. Today at work, (I teach in a middle school,) another teacher told me that the kids were saying I'm pregnant. Needless to say, this is NOT news that I have shared yet. Apparantly a couple students overheard me on the phone with the doctor after school discussing "test results". It amazes me that 13 year olds automatically assume I'm talking about being pregnant. I'm pretty upset about this, but I guess it's not that big of a deal. After all, I am pregnant!

    jana: good luck with those follicles. I'm sure at least a couple will be big enough.

    jpransk: be sure to keep us updated

    Always hopeful: good luck to you. I think we all have those same fears. Just keep thinking positively. Welcome to our little club!
  • Endo MamaEndo Mama Posts: 48
    Congrats jjones!!

    For those mommies-to-be still waiting for your BFP - my heart and prayers are with you!! I know getting a BFN is VERY hard - I was suprised at how much I was impacted by mine. I thought I was mentally prepared to face the odds and that a BFN was a natural progression in the journey to a BFP and successful pregnancy. But it is something so emotional at your core - it's only natural that it would be a devastating moment to see the BFN. And I too was tempted to stop trying and save myself the heartache...

    But PLEASE don't give up!!! Let yourself cry and grieve the loss of that chance but then pick yourself up and head strongly toward your next chance - the one that could be THE one!!

    As for me, I am 13 weeks now and so grateful!! I am so very, very glad I didn't throw in the towel because I would have missed out on what I know I was meant to do.

    *bAbY*dUsT* to all and looking forward to hearing more BFP stories!!!
  • ualtiggerualtigger Posts: 589
    Always: I know how you feel... I just turned 46 this past July and am trying also. I don't worry about the what if's... even folks a lot younger than we are have problems and I believe you get the child that He wants you to have.

    AFM: Still haven't gotten my medical records to my new RE even though they were mailed back on the 13th of October... so... just another test... to see how badly I want what I want. Thinking about taking the rest of the year off seeing that I think it would be best for me to have another HSG since I had one back in July and that clears the tubes so the egg can pass easier.

    Good luck to everybody trying and BFP's to those who are waiting!! Hope to be back soon.
  • MistyandCarlaMistyandCarla Posts: 720
    To all of those trying...hang in there. My prayers are with everyone of you.
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