Where are all of the Single Mothers???

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  • Hi Ualtigger, I was wondering how you were doing. I agree that love is the most important thing we can give our kids.

    I started out with Clomid 100 mg on CD 5-9. I made one follicle. The funny thing is that the month I first came to them I had made 3 follicles on my own. No wonder some people get pregnant as soon as they stop taking the medications. They triggered me yesterday morning with HCG. I just did my first and hopefully only IUI this morning. I'm not sure if I ovulated yet. I'm a little suspicious of the clinic's timing, but I'm going to think positively.

    I wish all of us TTC lots of luck and baby dust.
  • Hey hopeful, how're you? Hoping you're still holding onto hope... it keeps us trying... I know it does for me. Hoping things went well for you since your TWW should be ending soon.

    AFM: I start my first Clomid cycle on Wednesday @ 50mg. I do believe that I ovulate but perhaps my eggs don't mature in time and this is supposed to help me with that. I will be on CD 3-7.

    Good luck to everybody trying and waiting... hugs to all.
  • Hi ladies :)
    It's lil' ol' me wishing everyone a safe and happy holidays :)
    I am waiting one more week for my amnio results to come back. I still do not know the gender yet, and that will come back with the results. I had a scare 5 days after the amnio, when I had cramping early in the morning, so they had me come in, checked on ultrasound, and they saw no trauma or hemorraging to the uterus, baby is moving and has a strong heartbeat. Dr. said it was probably digestive distress on my part. Yippee!
    After that trip to the dr. I now have a scratchy throat (Double yippee!) which I'm toughing out (I don't take anything.)

    I wish you all baby dust...may all your wishes come true.
  • Baby dust and Merry Christmas to all.
  • Hi Ladies - I am new here and thought I would say hi. I think I just picked my donor and will hopefully have my first IUI within the next couple of weeks. Since it will be my first we are doing a natural cycle - any tips would be much appreciated.
  • I'm jumping on the "single mother" bandwagon as well. I'm 32, and have been ready for a child ever since I can remember, but finally feel like now is the time. A little nervous, and trying not to be stressed, but super excited. I have Kaiser and they are actually very helpful and conducting fertility tests despite the fact that I have never tried to become pregnant and am not considered infertile. Has anyone had an HSG test done (dye to ensure you have no blocked tubes)? I'll be taking my blood tests in the next couple of weeks, and then my HSG next month, and then hopefully starting IUI in February. Any advice or tips would be WONDERFUL. Good luck to everyone.
  • I'm on day 2 of the TWW... I had my third IUI on Saturday the 19th. It's my first one with meds so I'm more hopeful this time.

    Definitely get the HSG. I found out that I HAD a blocked tube by TRYING to have one... and they couldn't do it which led to me having a tubal cannilization to open it up. With a blocked tube, no MATTER your age, your chances are cut to 50% BEFORE you even try... get that test girlfriend... get that test.
  • I had the HSG done as well (last month). It was kind of neat to see, but be prepared. They are not kidding when they say you will feel a bit crampy when they inject the dye. I am 38 and have know for a very long time that I wanted to have a baby. I am very excited, but a bit scared as well.

    Ualtigger - how are you feeling with the meds?
  • MM: I did okay... really the only thing I had was a bit of extra warmth but no cramps, mood swings or yucky stuff like that. I'm currently 4DPIUI and had my progesterone test and I'm at 21 which my nurse said is great this early in the game. I go back for another test on Monday which is 9DPIUI. I can't do the 7DPIUI test because they don't do bloodwork on the weekends.
  • Gltrbug-
    I have Kaiser too, and they were great about doing all my testing, including HSG-to try to figure out why I wasn't ovulating every month. It was the only test I had where I cried, and I just had an amnio (needle in the uterus.) I knew if I was to have a baby I had to tough out the HSG because it was probably nothing compared to contractions or childbirth LOL. All tests were ordered through my regular Kaiser OB/GYN, however they would not do my IUI because I was single, and neither would they give me an outside referral, so it was all out of pocket expenses, but after the procedure they continue to take good care of me, monitoring me very closely because of my age.
    The IUI itself is nothing, really. Just like a pap.

    Ualtigger-crossing fingers and toes for you!

    Good luck everybody :)
  • Hi Everyone. I have my HSG on Monday so I am a little nervous about that. I don't anticipate any problems with that though (at least I hope not). Hope to have my iui in February. If it were up to me it would be January,but I have diabetes and my doctor wants me to get better control of my blood sugar before becoming pregnant, which is understandable. I can't wait to get pregnant. I have a few donors in mind, but am still debating. But I can't wait. Good luck to you all.
  • Hi everyone, I am just about to turn 33 (30 Dec!) and have just joined this website. I live in New Zealand but am intending to travel to LA in Aug/Sept 2010 to attempt AI. Obviously for me, there are huge costs involved so I need it to work first time. This is a decision I have made (to be a single mum) because I have had such awful luck with men and cannot keep dating losers - its soul destroying. I have read alot of your posts and this seems like such a neat community to be a part of. I hope I can be of some support to you, and Im sure you will be a support to me too, after all, we're all in this together. Does anyone have any tips for me on how to conceive first time? I'm still reasonably young and healthy, but any advice on how to increase my fertility would be much appreciated. Thank you.
  • DC808-
    Thanks for the information and advice. Where do you live? I live in California, and Kaiser will be doing everything for me...the fact that I am single is not a problem. Everyone is telling me to go ahead with the HSG, which I do want, but I haven't even tried to get pregnant yet, and I know any kind of radiation near your uterus can kill eggs so I'm a bit paranoid. Getting one also means I have to hold off on my first IUI until February. Kaiser automatically insisted I get the HSG before I begin to try. So, I'm going in for routine blood testing soon, and then the HSG next month after I get my period.

    Good luck to everyone, and welcome KiwiCarolyn.
  • I am a single mom of three children. I want to have another and am considering a donor. I feel afraid to ask my doctor. Did anyone else have these feelings too?
  • Hi Ladies,

    I'm a recently-turned-38-year-old woman who's going for her 3rd IUI in about a week and a half. I was diagnosed with PCOS about a decade ago and told it was next to impossible for me to conceive naturally and that, if I did so with help, I'd be looking at an 80% miscarriage rate. It turns out that there's been plenty of progress made with this condition in the intervening years, and probably a better understanding of the odds, so I'm trying.

    The first two attempts didn't take, so my doctor suggested a couple laproscopic procedures to see if I was also dealing with endometriosis and if anything was blocked. I went about 1.5 weeks ago, learned that there was some endometriosis involved, and have now been "cleaned out" so that hopefully the sperm and eggs want to stick around join this time. :o)

    Regarding insurance, I'm dealing with HealthNet, and they've been awful. Thankfully endometriosis is a separate diagnosis so my surgeries were covered, but I'm paying for everying out of pocket until I'm pregnant. I'm pretty worried as I needed to take out a major loan for four attempts, and there are only two more I can do.

    Keep me in your prayers and thoughts, please!

    God bless each of you in your endeavors as well!
  • Hello Ladies,
    I hope everyone had a nice holiday. I just ordered my first batch (can I call it that?). I start my monitoring Monday morning and am starting to get very excited and nervous.

    ualtigger - how are you doing?
    imanisworld - How did your HSG go? everything okay?

    I hope everyone is doing well.
  • Thank you Gltrbug, good luck in your efforts, DLM, I understand the costs worries, you are in my prayers, I hope the next one works for you. Yes I believe that good progress has been made in the fertility feilds in the last ten years. Im going to order some Clomid before I come to LA for my IUI, as I need it to work first time... ZombieMom37, good luck to you, you are so blessed already to have 3, I could understand wanting another one. I always wanted lots of children.
  • Hi Ladies,
    My doctor called me tonight to let me know it's a healthy girl. I'm happy, I'm relieved, I'm blessed.

    Sending more {{{Baby dust}}} to you all!
  • DC808, Congratulations! I am still trying to select a donor and hope to do the first IUI in February. Do you mind sharing your donor number?
  • DC: Congratulations!! Another niece for me!! Did they give you your due date yet?

    AFM: I'm doing okay... due to test this Saturday... I've decided that I'm going to wait and see what happens. I'm still very high on my BBT chart... higher than I've ever been. My 9DPIUI was 14.8... but since the level can change HOURLY let alone daily, I'm not concerned about it.

    How's everybody else doing?
  • Still here UAL. I wish my docs did levels throughout the cycle to see what happens. Good luck this saturday.
  • Hi everyone,

    This forum is just so supportive and informational, I decide to step in and say hi. Long story short…I am starting this process at 35-year-old to become another single mommy.

    My RE initially suggested starting with two nature cycles without meds and then doing it more aggressive if no success. However, after the results of my blood tests & ultrasounds, he recommended using clomid on the first IUI b/c my progesterone level was low (1.2), he said I need at least 10.

    I plan for the first IUI sometime in Feb 2010 but still nervous about using med to stimulate b/c of all the side effects. I am just so sensitive to any meds or vitamins; I started prenatal but then had to stop/switch to another and then another b/c of the side effects (severe headache, insomnia, acne issues, …)

    Anyway, if you have any thoughts, and/or experience with the drug, please share with me.

    Thanks, happy New Year! ….and baby dream come true!
  • I am thinking about getting preganant, I'm single, no husband or partner and going to be 44 in April, it's scary, big decision but I don't have time to think or waste, my dtr keeps telling me my chances are low due to age, etc. Never tried to get pregnant in the past..anyone else in their mid forties?
  • Sui: Hi, hon. I'm 46 and just had my third IUI but the first one with meds. Waiting to see how I did... I can test tomorrow but, having gotten a BFN twice, decided that I will wait and see what happens. For me having the heifer just show up is less painful than testing early & having your hopes dashed.
  • Hi Sui, I'm 42 and just starting this process also. I go for my first RE appt. shortly and I am kinda nervous.
    I have been reading everything I can find. I've bought several books and joined several forums to learn all I can.
    Good luck with your journey. I am trying to stay positive. I am married and my dh is very supportive. I know it would be more challenging to be single, but growing up I knew of lots of single moms that were great & had happy kids (unlike all the doom & gloom stats. you hear all the time).
    One thing I have learned is to stick close to the positive people and steer clear of the "negative nellies" (no offense if your name is nellie;)LOL...neg. people will always be there, i'm just learning to ignore them.
    There are so many positive, encouraging people who post on this website, it always lifts me up when I read what everyone writes.

    Blessings & Baby Dust to you! (*.*)
  • I'm a "wannabe" single mom. Unfortunately, I may have waited too long. Thought I had the right guy until he told me after 3.5 years, when push came to shove, that he really didn't want to have kids. Nice. So, now I'm 43 and desperately trying to have a child. I've gone through 3 rounds of IUI unsuccessfully and then decided to try IVF. I started my meds today for my second attempt. My first attempt was canceled due to my estrogen levels having dropped. My meds were upped for this cycle. I'm also doing fertility acupuncture. Please pray for me. There's nothing I want more than a child.
  • Hello MistyandCarla and everyone else!

    I am a 40 year old single mother of a 4 month old son and I am the happiest I've ever been. I got pregnant on the third IUI. All three times I used clomid. It was quite discouraging when it did not happen the first two times. Fortunately, I did not give up. I hope to try again for baby #2 in 2010 or 2011. Wish me luck.

    Question....How do you plan to tell you child about his biological father?
  • Hello,

    I have been reading this post and there is alot of good information. I am still in the thinking seriously phase. I will be 38 this year and don't want to wait too much longer. I also have some uterine issues. I am pretty well versed in the science of this, but I do have a question that anyone can answer. When thinking about this does it bother you that your child could have potentially 30 to 40 siblings running around? This is almost a major stumbling block for me. Any advise or input would be appreciated.
  • Hi Everyone,

    I am doing this alone also. I'm 33...having my 2nd IUI tomorrow (well..I guess that would be today, actually)...hopefully it works this time...
  • Hello Everyone,

    I am also 33 and doing this alone. I had 2 surgeries due to ovarian cysts, the 2nd surgery I ended having to have my my right tube and ovary removed. With the medical issues I have suffered over the past year I felt I could no longer wait for "Mr. Right", and had to do it alone. I have just started my 1st round of IVF, due to blocked tube. ER will be sometime mid month as long as everything goes well. To luckrune, the siblings by the numbers was a concern of my mother, but I think the sibling registry put her mind at ease. I plan to be open from the beginning with any child I may conceive, and explain how much I wanted them, and this is why I made the choice I have. My plan is to put together a scrap book of any/all info that I get along this journey.
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