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Julie, I am glad you stopped vomiting. What a relief that must be. I am so glad that A and B are doing well. It must be awesome that you are starting to feel movements. Must be comforting. You will definitely be carrying a load when you hit 9 months with two. Hoping for the best for you.
We are so used to appointments that it is weird to just have 1 a month. Tuesday should be good and finally get to hear the heart beat. So looking forward to that. We have told family at this point. Abby finally told her principal who did a dance and then started telling everyone in the school! She is so excited. We started looking into daycare options and holy moly they are expensive here in Chicago. Yikes. Not sure what we are going to do. We are excited to continue to tell Abby's extended family at a Christmas party on the 26th. I am hoping in the next trimester which we will be 13 weeks on Tuesday Abby starts to not be as exhausted. Bed by 7:30 every night. I guess you are right baby is a little parasite.
Happy holidays to you both! Please let us know how the appointments go!
Those trying to conceive it is an emotional rollarcoaster. Take one day at a time in the TWW. Your positive will come.
i get how hard the road to a BFP is and it makes my heart swell to hear where you are now. happy holidays to you all!
Thanks for sharing your progress, your experiences give me hope. lisa and becy
We also had bloodwork done, and because of my "elderly" status, my insurance covers the more detailed (and expensive) testing. So they told us we would have the genetic test results and know the gender in about 7 to 10 days. With our daughter we didn't find out until she was born. And we have been debating what we want to do this time. We thought we had until 20 weeks to think it over...but this was a surprise! So we have a lot to consider over the next week. Either way, we want to be surprised...so I won't let the geneticist tell me over the phone. We are considering the gender reveal idea. So many happy things to consider!
I appreciate all of your support and friendship throughout this journey! It has been invaluable! I hope you all have a great holiday with family and friends!
-Rebecca
Our appointment was great too, both babies doing well and apparently kicking one another a lot!! They had me roll on my side for a bit because A was being shy, it seems to be that each time we look one of them is hiding! We don't need to go back for 4 weeks which is great, the next time we see them we will be past the half way mark, can you believe it!?
I hope you all have a wonderful holiday, good luck next week Cari & Abby! I am so grateful for you all and so happy we get to go on this journey together!
Julie
Julie you might have some fun with those girls if they are already kicking each other. Twins would be hard but a blast.
We saw the midwife yesterday. Nice strong heartbeat. So cool to finally hear it!!! Our baby wasn't shy and she picked it up right away. Next time I'm going to record it. We were 13 weeks yesterday. So exciting. All of our family knows. We told them at Christmas. It was so much fun. We finally feel safe and everything is healthy. Abby continues to be really exhausted. She's showing quite a bit. We got her some maternity clothes. We have started researching daycares and planning how to turn our condo into a safe place for baby. I think the next six months are going to fly by.
Cari
We had such a nice quiet Christmas, we have told pretty much everyone in our families too which is a relief, we have been telling friends either as we see them or over holiday messages if they live far away. I think that babies bring so much love that everyone feels happy for us. We are now in the midst of people suggesting names to us! Are either of you planning of finding out genders or are you waiting to be surprised?
Julie
Our Christmas was nice. We didn't make it back to see my family because of a snow storm but plan on it in January or at least meeting my mom halfway.
By now everyone knows. We announced on facebook yesterday. So the whole world knows. It's been fun seeing all the love we've gotten.
We are not finding out the gender. You know how mad people get when you tell them you aren't. Oy, it really bothers some people. We don't want overly gendered stuff. So that's that. One of my staff members has a whole gender reveal party planned for us but we aren't finding out.
It seems Abby is hitting the sweet spot of starting to feel a little better. 14 weeks tomorrow. She hasn't felt any flutters or anything. We are tackling our office today which will be the nursery. It's going to need a lot of work. It sucks to do in a rental but we aren't sure we are going to stay in Chicago much longer. We may move by Abby's family. We are starting to research second parent adoption and daycare. I think the next few months will fly by.
I hope we all continue healthy pregnancies!!
Cari
We have not bought any baby stuff yet, I think I am scared to tempt fate, but i have been looking at strollers online and can't wait for that part of it all. We are not getting much as we are not renewing our apartment lease in September so will be moving with tiny babies and really don't need the added stress of a ton of stuff until we settle in the next place.
Hope all is going well for you Cari and Rebecca, also keeping my fingers crossed for everyone trying and in the TWW - it was a long journey for us but so worth is as we see those two little girls jumping and kicking on the ultrasound machine today!
Julie xx
We have thought about moving too, but decided to just stay put for another year. It's a pretty small place so once the child is walking we will definitely need something else. But for now we have the office cleared out and it just needs to be turned into a nursery. Have no clue how to decorate. We don't want to buy furniture or anything until we have the anatomy scan and we know everything is going to be okay.
Other then that Abby is doing well. We have another appointment with our midwife on Monday. We are on the monthly plan right now. We will get the order for the anatomy scan when we go. Abby is 16 weeks along now. Will be 17 on Tuesday. Week 20 is actually valentine's day. We are hoping to have the scan that day and then go get a valentine's day dinner celebrating our little one.
Abby did feel a couple of kicks the other day. She was just sitting in the right position and felt them. Nothing since. I hope she can start feeling movement with more frequency soon.
Rebecca, how are things going for you?
To those following this thread, I hope your TWW is going well. I hope you all get your BFP this year. We are so excited to be on this journey with everyone.
cari
Good luck Mcosme64! I got pregnant with my twin girls on my first try with 13460, however it was my 9th try overall as I tried 2 other donors before switching to him. We did an IUI at the clinic on the day of my positive ovulation test then did an ICI at home that same night using the Stork fertility gadget, so we don't know which specifically did the deed! This was however the first time we tried the ICI at home and the reason for that was that we felt like I had a short surge and it always seemed to happen overnight making the one before too early and the one after too late. We like to think it was the at home ICI that worked for us!
After lots of debating, we decided to find out the gender this time. We didn't find out with our daughter, but she was actually part of the reason we decided to know this time...so we could prepare her in the best way possible! So, we had the genetic counselor seal a secret envelope that we took to the bakery, where they were to make us a cake with blue or pink icing. Then we invited our closest friends and family to a gender reveal party. When we cut in to the cake...it was blue! We're having a BOY! We are excited and a little tentative! Not sure exactly what to expect with a boy, except a lot of energy and love!
I hope all is going well with you Julie and Cari! Maybe we should start a new thread... with a title like Finally!!!
Take care and best wishes to all those in the TWW...have faith in your journey!
Rebecca
Your daughter will have a ton of fun bossing around her brother - my sister in law is having a boy soon and has a 4 year old girl already, her daughter is busy planning names for the baby and we laugh when we imagine how she is going to be telling him what to do!
Good idea re a new thread - or maybe we could set up a secret facebook page so we can share pictures with only one another once the babies are here?
Good luck with the anatomy scan, it's so much fun!
Julie
So nice to hear all of your BFP stories... Hoping to join you all soon!!!
Kim
As for us pregnancy is progressing well. Nothing major to report. I'm glad everything is going normally and so far no issues. We go for our 20 week ultrasound on the 13th. We are super excited to see baby again. Haven't gotten a glance since week 7. We are not finding out the gender. It will be hard not knowing but what a surprise! Hoping the 20 week scan doesn't spoil it on accident. My brother just had theirs and you can definitely see the penis.
I'm totally in nesting mode. I want to get the nursery put together. We need to get through the 20 week first. But I need to scrape the window sills and repaint them. That at least can get done regardless. I am worried something could be wrong. Just anxiety. The 13th can't come soon enough. We've wanted this so long just want all to be good.
We found our daycare option today. So relieved. It was stressing me out. Centers by us are $2000 a month and couldn't afford that. So I'm totally content with the alternative we came to.
Anyways I'd totally be up for the Facebook page. Or a new board definitely like the title finally. :)
And of course, even though we vowed not to take HPT this time, we did. We saw a very slight line and both of our heads immediately said "Yay!" because we have never even seen a double line EVER!However we both doubt the validity due to the HCG shot I took on the 24th.. Has anyone had anything similar? And I guess I am wondering what are the chances of a "chemical" pregnancy showing faintly on a HPT?
PS. In the interest of full disclosure - I have stalked these bulletins for years, and I always wanted to join in the conversations but have been "shy" -for lack of a better term... and I guess now would be the best time for a VERY welcomed distraction since I can't tell anyone from work anything - and I am waiting to discuss this with my family at all as well
Stay positive!
Lauren
Either way I wish you luck and baby dust and hope that your journey is shorter than ours!
We are 23 weeks this week, I'm feeling big and the babies are very active! I am amazed and grateful every day that this finally worked as we wait for these two little miracles to arrive! We are so excited to be close to viability, I think we might even consider buying a little something!!
Julie
@Elliejo We had a couple of cycles that we did back to back IUI's, so I've lost count of how many vials we've been through. Our insurance doesn't cover ANY infertility treatments, but luckily our doctor is just using a different code so we usually just have to pay our co-pays for visits and IUI's. If we have to switch to IVF, I'm not sure they'll be able to code it in a way that will help us out financially. Our Dr has said taht he's not going to let us keep trying if it isn't working... we'll have to sit down and have a talk about what options we want to pursue. We have tried different doses of meds and injections and, again, this time with the progesterone so if it doesn't work, we know that we have exhausted every option. BUT, hopefully this is the one and we won't have to worry about that. So glad everything is going well with your pregnancy. I can't wait for that excitement!! I don't think I could ever not find out the gender, but think it's greafor others if that's what they want!! What a surprise that will be in the end!!
Thank you all for the support! Sometimes it's nice to be heard and connect with someone that knows exactly how you feel!!
Lauren, my fingers are crossed for you!! One more week!!! I'm sure it's tough with the symptoms from the progesterone, but just try to keep busy...as difficult as that is!
Julie, I never really have any symptoms of my ovulation or surge. I guess that's what is making it difficult. Hopefully the timing is PERFECT this time.. I took the OPK this past weekend (starting on cd 8) through yesterday (cd 12) and they have all been negative. I'm not going to take one today, as I triggered last night. Super excited and nervous for tomorrow. Our IUI is scheduled for 10am.
Julie, how are the twins? How are you? When are you due?
Rebecca, did you have your 20 week ultrasound? Ours is Monday. So frickin excited! Are you feeling movement yet? When is your due date?
Lauren, when do you test? Hoping for a BFP!!!
Cari
How's everyone else doing?
We had our 20 week ultrasound! So cool to see baby moving so much. He/she would not turn so they couldn't see a side of the heart. We will have to go back in 2-3 weeks. Kind of excited. We aren't finding out the sex. So surprise surprise come July. I think everything was okay but the tech couldn't give us any information. We see the midwife on Monday so hoping they will reassure me all is okay. We haven't received any indication that things aren't okay. Abby has an anterior placenta which is preventing her from feeling too much movement. :( We just want to know baby is okay.
Hope you are all doing well!
Cari
We're going to try one more IUI, since this last cycle was far better than the rest. I think we found the right med combo.
IF that doesn't work, we'll take a break to just relax and focus on us as a couple. We'll either proceed with IVF or adoption. My insurance doesn't cover infertility treatments so it will most likely be all out of pocket... So that will take a lot of consideration. My fear is that we will put all of our money in that and it still not work... OR we could invest that money in an adoption fund and move that way. I'm fine with either route, the end result is the same. We just want to grow our family. Sometimes I feel selfish for trying SO hard to get pregnant when there are children in the world that need a happy home.
Ifippin I had a fibroid in my uterus removed last May which made us take a few months off, it was an easy procedure but the funny thing is and now they can still see one in there when they do the ultrasounds on the babies! I think fertility meds increase them in some people.
Cari, the babies are looking great thanks! 26 weeks this week, it is getting hard to see a profile of baby A as she is low down but we are getting all the pictures of baby B who is a real mover and shaker! She does her "Alien" performance regularly! Last week they measured in at 1lb 10oz each, I can't believe they are not much more as they sure feel heavy to me! I guess 2 placentas and all that jazz probably contribute to the heaviness too. We are due on June 1 but I guess we might go early since there are 2.
Rebecca, I hope all is well with you and baby boy!
Good luck to everyone trying still and tons of baby dust. I sympathize 100% with the long journey and hope you get the same good result we did - hang in there!
Julie