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  • Our ultrasound went great! Baby D's heartrate was a strong 111. It was so cool to see it flickering on the screen. It is basically unreal that we are pregnant. And this baby is ours. I pray nothing happens and we reach a healthy full-term pregnancy. I know a lot can go wrong but I am hopeful everyday that baby d keeps growing.

    Cari
  • Cari & Rebecca - so happy to hear that everything is going well and you saw the heartbeat! It's getting very exciting around here!

    Congratulations on the upcoming wedding Cari, I think it's a great idea before the you know what hits the fan. We have been talking about what safeguards if any we need to take, we are going to look into second parent adoption, although we were under the impression this wasn't necessary in New York (who knows now though, right?) We are also very worried about healthcare as we have a policy through Obamacare and obviously we are screwed if we lose that with all the hospital care potentially needed for these three!!
    In the mean time we are focusing on the good things, our third wedding anniversary is next weekend and the nausea seems to be getting much better, so that's exciting!
    Good luck with moving on to the OB Rebecca, are you also moving on Cari or do you have another RE visit first?

    Julie
  • We have one more ultrasound on Friday and then meet with the doctor the Wednesday before thanksgiving then will be released! We have a midwife practice picked out and they are doing my annual on the second. Abby liked them when she got her pre-ivf pap done. There is also much talk about me adopting and whatnot. I'm not sure what safeguards we need to do. I think we just need to sit down with a family law lawyer to discuss what is best.

    I'm so happy we all got our miracles! Here's to a happy and healthy nine months or as close as you can get to that Julie. And yes time to focus on all the good we have. And the excitement of next summer!
  • Hi all! Just checking in! I have been sick with a cold and the beginning of morning sickness since last Friday. And on top of that, this fatigue is kicking my butt. With the first one, I just came home from work and slept...but now I have a toddler to care for, feed and entertain! I have been sleeping each night around 8, right after putting our daughter to bed. I know it is all for a good cause, and wouldn't want it any other way!

    How is Abby feeling, Cari? I a, so jealous you have another ultrasound this Friday. I wish we had 1 more with the RE. But my official first scan should be pretty soon!

    How are you feeling Julie?
  • Aww, sorry the symptoms are all kicking butt Rebecca! (But not really, because I'm sure it's a good sign!)
    The sickness has pretty much gone for me, I'd say it eased off in the past week and is almost gone now unless I smell something strong that triggers it. The fatigue is real, again not as bad now as it was but I am totally ready to go to sleep at 9pm. We have our CVS testing tomorrow which is scary, pleased we will see the babies again though, I am 12 weeks today so hoping to see lots more at this one! We think they will test A and C because the position of B pretty much makes it impossible to get to the placenta right now, I'm hoping we are making the right choice doing this but I suppose it's better than waiting until later when there are 3.

    We will be seeing our babies on the same day Cari! I hope all is well and Abby is sailing through these weeks, I can't wait to hear how things go tomorrow for you!

    Rebecca, it sucks not having another ultrasound with the RE but at least when you do have one with the OB the imaging will be so much clearer!
  • Hey all! We are doing good over here. Abby is sooo tired all the time. A nap and bed at 8. A little dizziness in the morning. Night time nausea. No morning sickness so far. She came off the estradiol this week. She actually feels better off it.

    Our ultrasound went well today. Baby's heart rate was 156. It's so cool seeing it flicker. Haven't heard it. Just seen it. They don't want to expose the baby this early. We are set to graduate on Wednesday when we meet with the RE. First midwife appointment set on 12/2. Hoping we'll get another look!

    Cari
  • Hi everyone! So happy your little peanut is doing well Cari! I feel Abby's tiredness, I am totally ready for naps and bed all the time.
    Our appointment was good on Friday, all three babies measuring on or above their dates, they were all kicking up a storm, it was pretty funny. The CVS procedure was uncomfortable but not too bad (the worst was getting it done 3 times of course). We hope to have early results tomorrow so just keeping everything crossed that they are healthy. I honestly hope we get to find out the genders too as we are longing to start looking at names and buying little things.
    Hope all is going well for you too Rebecca!
  • Julie, glad your three miracles are doing well!!! What exactly is the CVS procedure? What does it test for? Sorry it was uncomfortable. Did they get to baby B?

    We graduate tomorrow from our REs office. We are so excited! After a year we can finally graduate. Looking forward to his plan on getting off the icky progesterone. The crinone is awful. Really icky. But if it makes baby D stick then it's so worth it. I'm sad we no longer get weekly ultrasounds of baby d. Hoping at our midwife appointment we get another picture and finally get to hear the heart beat. That appointment is 12/2. It's crazy to think it finally happen. Today we are eight weeks. I know there is never a safe time in pregnancy but each day is one more blessing. Abby got her first dose of morning sickness. Normally she has had night time nausea and nothing in the morning.

    Rebecca, have you scheduled your appointment with an OB yet? Hoping all is well with your pregnancy!!

    Cari
  • Cari, CVS is chorionic villus sampling where they (in my case anyway) went in through the cervix and took tiny samples from each placenta, it does a genetic and chromosome panel earlier than doing an amnio. If we just had one we probably wouldn't have done it, but with three it just seemed sensible to do it as early as possible. The good news is that we got a voicemail today from the genetic counsellor today to say that the early results show three healthy babies with no abnormalities which is a relief. She offered more in depth testing but we are not going for that. I am hoping when I talk to her tomorrow we might find out the genders!

    Morning sickness sucks but at the same time is great as it likely shows that baby D is settled in there for the long haul! I actually worried when my sickness subsided in case something was wrong!!

    Hope all is well with you Rebecca, I hope you ladies all have a lovely Thanksgiving and manage to take it easy and keep down some food!!

    Julie
  • Hi Everyone, just a quick update. We got the results of our CVS today and we have three healthy GIRLS!! We are very excited!

    Hope you are all doing well!

    Julie
  • Julie!!! That is wonderful, amazing news! I am so happy for you. So much to be thankful for this holiday!

    Cari - I hope all went well at your "graduation" appt today! Exciting to meet with the midwife soon! And hear that little heartbeat!

    As for me, I had my first appt with the OB office, but it was really just an intake with more bloodwork and lots of talking. My ultrasound is scheduled for next Tuesday. To be honest, I am very anxious to see the little one again. My waves of dizziness and nausea have been inconsistent, which has me worried and my other early pregnancy symptoms have really just been sore breasts and exhaustion, with some acne and gas for added fun, which have been pretty manageable! I am so worried that something will be wrong. Not that I think it is, I guess it's just from having the miscarriage last year. I feel like I will be so relieved to see everything growing well and progressing next week. Maybe then I can start to enjoy being pregnant.

    After my ultrasound, I have a doctor appt on Thursday. And apparently because I am "elderly"...like it literally says that on my paperwork from yesterday, I will have some additional monitoring and ultrasounds throughout my pregnancy. Crazy that 37 is such an advanced maternal age!

    I hope everyone has a relaxing and enjoyable Thanksgiving holiday with family and friends!
  • Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We definitely have a ton to be thankful for this year!

    Julie, I just read up on CVS testing. I don't think we will do it but it seems like a good plan. I am so happy for your triplet girls!! So fun! I want a girl so bad but we aren't finding out.

    Rebecca that is crazy that you are elderly now. Never thought that would happen at 37. Your symptoms seem to mimic Abby's. I wouldn't worry too much. I know it's hard not to, but please try to be at peace with this pregnancy.

    As for us graduation was good. The doctor said based upon the growth and heart rate that he saw over the past three ultrasounds there is less then a 5% chance of miscarriage. What a relief! Our due date remains July 4th. We will have a little fire cracker baby or near there. We are getting excited. Our families have had mixed responses which has been a challenge since they are the only ones that know. I think the sperm donor part is hard for them to be honest. Anyways we should share emails since we are in closer to the clear.

    Cari
  • Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We definitely have a ton to be thankful for this year!

    Julie, I just read up on CVS testing. I don't think we will do it but it seems like a good plan. I am so happy for your triplet girls!! So fun! I want a girl so bad but we aren't finding out.

    Rebecca that is crazy that you are elderly now. Never thought that would happen at 37. Your symptoms seem to mimic Abby's. I wouldn't worry too much. I know it's hard not to, but please try to be at peace with this pregnancy.

    As for us graduation was good. The doctor said based upon the growth and heart rate that he saw over the past three ultrasounds there is less then a 5% chance of miscarriage. What a relief! Our due date remains July 4th. We will have a little fire cracker baby or near there. We are getting excited. Our families have had mixed responses which has been a challenge since they are the only ones that know. I think the sperm donor part is hard for them to be honest. Anyways we should share emails since we are in closer to the clear.

    Cari
  • Hi all! We had our ultrasound today. We are officially 9 weeks 1 day and the baby measured 9 weeks 2 days, with a heart rate of 179! Everything is looking great! I am finally feeling a little more excited!

    Can't wait to hear about your appt on Friday, Cari! More good news is coming!
  • So happy to hear that baby is doing well Rebecca! So exciting!
    I am 38 so totally geriatric in medical terms! So funny.

    Cari, a little July 4th baby sounds amazing! We would probably have chosen not to do the CVS with one baby either although I know we are both too impatient to wait for the birth to find out the gender!

    We have an ultrasound on Friday, looking forward to seeing what's going on in there, we are so spoiled with all these ultrasounds.

    Cari, we have not really been brave enough to tell many people yet, I think I just wanted to get past the CVS and everything first. Now that it's over I am slowly telling my closest friends and my wife has told her sister, all of whom have been thrilled for us (probably why we told them first!) I am dreading telling my family to be honest as I think they will be more than a little disapproving, although I know they will come round. It's just an added stress though and I am really burying my head in the sand right now.
  • Rebecca, we are nine weeks today! Not far behind you. In our ultrasounds baby was measuring a day ahead. I really want a fire cracker baby. But they have a mind of their own. I have no clue how our midwife practice works and if we'll get an ultrasound. I sure hope so. I miss seeing baby d. Honestly way too many people know in our life right now. A lot of coworkers know because I got the call when lots were in my office. And missing work for ivf kind of opened up the conversation. It's ok though. My close friends know. I'm trying to keep it from others. We will be breaking the news to my republican, anti gay, racist grandfather at our family's Christmas on December 10. The good thing is my brother and sis in law are pregnant too. Two weeks ahead of us. They will be sharing too. The baby that will be accepted unlike ours. His loss. My mom is a little unsure about a sperm donor baby not being carried by me but by my wife who she only tolerates. So it's hard. It's nice the attention isn't on us. But today she did ask how Abby was. Progress! Abby's family has been weird. Her brother and sister in law had their second miscarriage after their second ivf transfer. Everyone is so focused on them because of the great loss. We get they are in pain and want to support them but we also would like some excitement. I'm feeling we may be walking on eggshells around them at Christmas. We are so excited we want others to be with us. So it's hard. We've been at this for a year we deserve to be happy about it.

    Julie best wishes in sharing with others. Triplets is a lot but will be three times the fun. And girls how special. Abby and I aren't finding out. It's going to kill me not to know but abby doesn't want to. I may need some therapy to be okay with penis in our house lol.

    If you guys want to move our updates to email my email is cari.dufel@gmail.com.

    I'll let you know on Friday how it goes. I hope we like the clinic. The hospital is less than a mile from our house so I hope it works for us.
  • Oh Cari, you made me laugh with the penis comment! Have no fear, baby boys are the sweetest things, I have a teenage boy from a previous relationship and can tell you from experience that they are so sweet and loving. I think that actually 2 women raising a boy makes the best man, we have a caring young guy here who is considerate and treats women with respect. If you have a boy you will love it once you get over it!!
  • Good to hear about little boys!!!

    Our midwife appointment went very well. Very informative! We will not have another ultrasound until week 20. Sigh. Didn't get to hear the heartbeat on the Doppler either. Sigh. Said it was too early. I think we were spoiled by the fertility center. We go back at the end of December. So until then we just enjoy being pregnant.

    Cari
  • Sadly we lost baby C, apparently due to an underdeveloped umbilical cord which was likely caused by simply sharing resources with A and B. We are very sad obviously but putting all our hopes and energy into keeping A and B safe and cooking for as long as possible. The doctor was very sympathetic but suggested that we now have a much better chance of making it close to term. A and B are both measuring well and weigh in at 4oz at 15 weeks. we have a follow up appointment with the high risk Dr next week to check everything is still ok then the early anatomy likely the week after that. We look set to get ultrasounds every 2 weeks throughout and the unpleasant job of having cervix checks are to start soon too, they seem to be very diligent at my hospital so we are grateful for that.

    I hope everything is going well Rebecca and Cari, We are thinking of getting an at home doppler from Amazon so we can hear the babies when we feel anxious, are either of you considering that? How are the symptoms?

    Julie
  • Julie, I am so so sorry for your loss of baby C. It must be hard to bear. I'm glad that Baby A and B are doing well! I'm praying for a strong and healthy remainder of the pregnancy and you make it close to term.

    We are well here in our household. Abby never got morning sickness. So that has been good. Abby continues to be really tired. Some of the hormonal symptoms are lessening. She had her last dose of progesterone last night. The RE is confident by now she should be making her own progesterone. We are happy for that. The suppositories were pretty icky. Overall the pregnancy is going well. We are telling extended family at Christmas. Immediate family knows. And Abby is going to tell her principal before winter break. It's been a tough secret to keep from her principal. We've picked out a few things here and there for baby d. We go back to the midwife on the 27th. It's weird to not have a gazillion appointments!

    Cari
  • Thanks Cari, we had another follow up yesterday and babies A & B are both doing great, we have our early anatomy scan next Friday, we are looking forward to that as we get to see the babies for a longer time than usual

    Good luck with telling people, we have been doing it slowly but surely, it goes between really hard and really wonderful depending who we are telling!!

    Good luck with your midwife appointment, I hope you guys have a fabulous holiday!

    Rebecca, I hope all is going well with you!

    Julie
  • I am almost to the middle of my TWW and it's taking forever! I'm trying to busy myself and keep calm, but it really is SO hard!!
  • Periwinkleblue...Hang in there. The TWW is the worst. Did you do IUI or IVF? A lot of us have been trying for some time. I encourage you to do little things to keep yourself busy. You can do this. When do you test?
  • Omg I haven't been on in a bit, I'm so happy for all the BFPs.

    Julie, I'm very sorry about baby C but very happy the other 2 are doing great. It's like bittersweet. At least that's how I felt when I lost baby B.

    I'm wishing everyone a happy and healthy pregnancy!

    Merry Christmas
  • Hi Ladies,

    New to this board but looking for some support. My wife just got her second IUI negative result. We know Two negatives isn't a lot and it takes most woman 3+ but for whatever I'm taking this really hard and am feeling incredibly negative about ever getting pregnant now. Not sure why as I realize many woman have much worst situations. I feel guilty for that.

    I think I'm confused and thought we would be pregnant by now because my wife had amazing fertility testing results and our donor has high numbers. Even our doctor thought we would be pregnant by now.

    Has anyone else struggled to get pregnant with no fertility issues? Thanks and best of luck to everyone else in the same boat.

    Laura
  • Hello Chicago3,

    we just had our 4th IUI and waiting the two weeks.
    The exact same thing about my partner, they said she has text book follicles and lining. But we have yet to have good sperm count. Its been emotionally taxing. These boards help to read other stories and see it varies on how long it takes.
    There is so much pressure with the expense and getting the timing correct. Hang in there! I have faith we will get pregnant
    just trying to trust. But i totally understand your feelings!
  • Hello Chicago3,

    we just had our 4th IUI and waiting the two weeks.
    The exact same thing about my partner, they said she has text book follicles and lining. But we have yet to have good sperm count. Its been emotionally taxing. These boards help to read other stories and see it varies on how long it takes.
    There is so much pressure with the expense and getting the timing correct. Hang in there! I have faith we will get pregnant
    just trying to trust. But i totally understand your feelings!
  • Hi Lex07,

    Thanks for the support! While I want everyone to get pregnant on the first try it does make me feel better knowing we aren't alone. I'm definitely someone who is impatient and can jump to worst case scenario quickly. I'm working on it :) and am lucky to have an incredibly positive wife.

    Best of luck in your TWW! Sending good thoughts your way.

    Laura
  • Julie - I am so sorry for your loss. I imagine how difficult that this time is...a mix of joy and sadness. I am glad that you are your wife are staying positive. Cant wait to hear about your early anatomy scan.

    Cari - Glad that all is going well. Excited to hear about your midwife appt next week. I bet you are dying to see the little bean again.

    I have my genetic testing scan on Thursday morning - so we will see the bean and get blood work done. I am nervous and excited.

    About 2 weeks ago, I had a scare. I woke in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and was bleeding. Lots of blood, with clotting. I freaked out and we went to the hospital right away. I needed to see the baby and the heartbeat. The bleeding slowed and stopped pretty quickly. Everything looked great with the baby and they let me go and had me on bed rest for 2 days. Then I had a follow up ultrasound the next week, and was told I had a subchorionic hemorrhage, which does not effect the baby, but could bleed again until all the blood is out. SCARY!

    So now we have our fingers crossed that all looks well on Thursday. Our next OB appt is on the 30th. I feel like I should be able to stop worrying so much if the next 2 visits go well. Then we will start telling people. I know htat I am a lucky one, my family is very supportive of me and my family!
  • Oh Rebecca, that is so scary! I am so glad everything is ok and will be thinking of you on Thursday. I have heard of quite a lot of mamas on the multiple boards talking about severe subchorionic hemorrhages which have been terrifying and sometimes lasting a long time but appear to have been harmless to the babies. It is really traumatic though, hopefully it was just a one time thing.

    I am 17 weeks tomorrow and suddenly have an appetite and have stopped throwing up finally! I feel like the bump is getting BIG now, I can feel baby B move a lot, she is all the way up at my belly button and beyond at times! So far I don't think I have felt A since she is much lower down but I am looking forward to seeing how much they have grown - it feels like a lot! Last week I had only gained about 3 pounds in the pregnancy but the babies were measuring fine, my MFM keeps saying "don't worry, they are parasites! They will get all they need from you!" Nice!
    I was finishing my Christmas shopping yesterday and ended up so wiped out and exhausted, the bump felt so heavy! Goodness knows how it's going to be in the future! My wife says she's going to need to set up a bed in our living room so I don't need to go upstairs - up until yesterday I thought she was being dramatic, now maybe not so much!!

    Good luck on Thursday, it will be reassuring for you to see that everything is good.
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