I'm 39, single, and figured I can't afford to loose my time (physically) to meet Mr. (or Mrs.) Right, so decided to take charge of motherhood by myself. I have in no way troubles to meet people, I have just not met *that* person. Perhaps I've been too picky, or expecting too much, but I simply have never felt ready or willing to settle down seriously w anyone. I rather stay single than in a half good/half bad relationship, especially if it would lead to a painful separation later on. Perhaps being a child of divorced parents have made me extra mindful about selecting as well. At 39, I've discovered that my market value has greatly decreased. While I had to fend people off before, now I have to actively try if I want to meet someone, and having perhaps been "spoiled" before, it's an art I have not mastered. I need to go to a charm school I think... ;) and in the meantime, try on my own.
As per my doctor hormone levels are good, I am physically healthy and younger than my actual age. I don't smoke, I'm not overweight, I've never tried a drug (not even pot), and I drink moderately. I like a good glass of red or bubbles, but very, very rarely get to intoxicated. In other words, everything looked good.
At first I was very confident. Of course it was going to work!
After my 4th "failed" insemination, not as confident anymore. I've been on Clomid on 4 rounds of 5, attempt number 4 excluded - wanted to see if a "natural" egg would work.
Had my 5th IUI on July 26th. Tested negative 13 days post IUI thus have been sure I wasn't pregnant. I decided to move on nad do one last insemination over X-mas NYE (I live in a country where you can not legally do inseminations, so I'm stuck to my holidays for treatments (and luckily I have many being a teacher). So I continued with my life. Without pregnancy symptoms I've been surfing, climbing a volcano, and so on. Sometimes exhausted myself. I have had no pregnancy symptoms at all, this further confirmed my belief that the insemination was unsuccessful.
As it yesterday, Aug 31st, was +6 1/2 weeks ago since my last period I tested again, lo and behold, to my utter surprise it was positive!
Now of course I'm slightly (but not very) worried about my lifestyle.
* I have consumed alcohol three times post IUI; one time I got close to tipsy (but definitely not drunk), the other two not even remotely close to feeling the effect of the alcohol.
* I got a urinary tract infection the day I tested negative and took antibiotics through day 13-19 after insemination.
* As I thought I wasn't pregnant I've been careless w nutritional supplements. Up until IUI I took prenatal vitamins daily for at least 3 months. For the last 2 weeks I haven't at all.
* I got an acute retinal necrosis due a virus (varicella zoster) many months ago, and though I'm almost off the medicine by now, I still have taken Aciclovir and antiviral eye drops first daily and from a week ago every other day. That further worries me. My eye doc told me to get off the medicine, but I've been on them since insemination in July...
All these worries are probably not bad or anything to worry abt at all, yet I wish I would have done that last pregnancy test much earlier than y'day.
As per several websites late implantation very often leads to miscarriage. In my case it def. was a very late implantation as I still tested negative 13 days after. If hypothetically I ovulated 1 or 2 days post insemination. Though I got a booster shot and my body was supposed to release the egg almost at the time of insemination (my doc had at previous times done the insemination slightly before, but decided to this time try as close to ovulation as possible). So if I indeed ovulated 1-2 days after, it still took the blastocyst at least 11 days to start implanting... If, instead, fertilization occurred on the day of, it means that it took a minimum of 13(!) days for implantation. This is where most of my worries lie. Will I, now when I finally succeeded this far, lose it?
Has anyone out there had successful implantations as late as 13 days or more yet still had a healthy pregnancy and delivery?
Good luck to all of you. I would love to go through this WITH someone, if there's anyone out there to share the ride w me?
I am not sharing this with near and dear ones until I've passed 3 months (with a couple of exceptions, but the ppl I've shared this w are guy friends and they cannot advice or support me the way a GF, or someone in the same boat as me, would.
On a last note, using the date of insemination as the date conception to calculate date of delivery, I am due on my 40th birthday. Now that would be some birthday preset! :)
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