complications....ugh

austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
in Single Mothers by Choice
Well, I went for my regular appoitment with my maternal fetal specialist on Wednesday. We were supposed to discuss gestational diabetes and do a routine check on the babies. Turns out my cervix has thinned out completely. I showed no signs of dilation or active labor though. I was only 22 weeks and 5 days. They admitted me to the hospital and prescribed complete bedrest. I won't be leaving the hospital until I deliver. Today I am 23 weeks and 3 days. My dr set a goal of keeping these babies in for the next 30 days. So, hopefully I am in for a long, long, long hospital stay and I can keep these babies in me for several more weeks. Please keep me and these babies in your prayers. After my miscarriage in May, I thought when I hit 12 weeks, I was golden this time. I don't know what I will do if I lose these babies too.

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  • Doubleoh7Doubleoh7 Posts: 36
    Oh sweetie we are so sorry but thank goodness for the miracles of science! They will do whatever it takes to keep you all safe.

    Many many well wishes for you all....

    Xo,
    Dj and Q
  • melissaprestwoodmelissaprestwood Posts: 136
    Prayers are sent. Stay in bed and do everything the dr tells you, it's going to be hard and long 30 days, but the most worthwhile thing to do ever do in life.
    Good luck.
  • ebgaubertebgaubert Posts: 3
    Hang in there sweetie- you are in our thoughts for an uneventful next couple of weeks.
    Even though we are strangers, I am sure there are many out there just like me who read these message boards as a lifeline to get through the struggle to make our babies, and want you to know they are thinking about you as well.
    You can do this.
    Be strong, we are all behind you.
    Let us know if we can do anything.
    A big hug to you,
    Elizabeth
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Austin

    My thoughts are with you. Stay strong. I understand where you are at. I know Ii was further along then you but remember what you have gone through to this point and think how strong you have been. Can they put a stitch in or is to late?

    Some thoughts for you. See if the NICU has a support group for you. We had one when I was in the hospital and it was prior to delivery. We were taken to the group by wheelchair and were allowed to talk about our feelings with strangers. We also made friends that way and could go room to room to talk or they would visit us.

    See if the NICU will come down to talk to you and see what you are in for. Make sure they also give you a Betamethazole shot for the babies lungs. If you need to talk email me off line and Ii can give you more info.

    anissa_stern@yahoo.com
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Austin

    Don't stress and think of it this way this will be the most rest you get the rest of your life. I know, as Hunter was up every 90 minutes and last night he slept from 7:30 to 11:30 and then again until almost 5, i was shocked. Ii should have gotten up to wake him, as the NICU docs and his pedi wants him to eat every 4 hours max.

    Catch up on your shows, get a hulu account and watch old TV shows, write a journal (wish I had), connect with other moms and Keep your spirits up. I know it is hard, but I have been there.

    Make sure you talk to the NICU see if they will give you a tour, I have been there and they are amazing.

    Hugs to you.

    BTW what are youu having?

    Anissa
  • austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
    Everything continues to go well. Babies are behaving and staying put for now. I have my first sono in a week tomorrow. They won't do a transvaginal ultrasound because they don't want to mess anything up that is working right now. But we are hoping to get good measurements on the babies.
    And we can't do the stitch. Apparently, there is nothing there to stitch. I am completely effaced. My dr was very blunt in telling me that if I had not had that appointment, I would have lost these babies just going about my regular routine within days or hours. So, thank God that I was seeing a specialist and had more frequent visits than most.
    Anissa, thanks for the tips on NICU. My hospital does have social hour for moms twice a week. I am in ante labor with a lot of other moms here for long term treatment. We meet twice a week for snacks and crafts and visiting. I haven't gone yet because I just got approved to attend on Tuesday. It was half over before the dr approved it, so I skipped that day and will go Thursday. I am very lucky in that my work is allowing me to work from the hospital. This helps pass the time and keep my mind off things. It also helps because I haven't been at my job a year. My FMLA kicks in tomorrow, so working these few days has been a huge relief on my mind.
    I will ask about the tour soon. My dr will get more lenient with me after Friday (24 weeks), I think. I might be able to get one in next week. For right now, it's pretty strict...short 5 minute showers, 15 minutes in a chair every 4 hours, etc...
    And it's a boy and a girl!!! She has dropped much lower, but he is still pretty high. Last Wednesday at the dr appt, they both measured 1 lb 4 oz. This is pretty good size for 23 weeks, so that helps too. Of course, sonos are extremely unreliable in measuring size, but it does make me feel better to know they are measuring on the bigger size for their age.
    Thanks for all the prayers and support. I will keep you guys updated.

    Anissa,
    How is your little one doing?
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Austin he is good. Try and email me off line and I will give you some more tips.
  • KWALKERKWALKER Posts: 34
    Austin you are absolutely amazing. While this is not my story (I had an MC in November and am in my 2WW now, identically with Double07:) I will share with you that my mom gave birth to the smallest child in 1990; my little brother was born 4 mos premature and weighed not even a pound at birth; and he survived and thrived! God clearly has an awesome plan for you and your miracle babies so do not lose sight of that!! Anissa, you're truly an angel to encourage her and share your and your incredible baby's story.

    God bless you both, you inspire us all to hold on and keep looking for the light at the end of this sticky, dusty tunnel!!
  • jaimecjaimec Posts: 329
    Austin - you will be in my thoughts and prayers! I have had no internet at home for almost 2 weeks so just seeing your update. Hang in there and keep thinking positive thoughts...you are doing all this for your babies!
  • a_walton2a_walton2 Posts: 236
    Austingurl you and those strong babies hang in there. My prayers to you all for a happy and safe delivery. Hang tough.
  • austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
    Well, after 3 days of contractions we were able to stop, real labor started. We tried everything but just could not stop them. I had an emergency c section last night at 6:30. I was 23 weeks and 6 days. Landry James weighed 1lb 7oz. Mckinlee Marie weighed 1lb 3 oz. Landry could never get stabilized and passed this afternoon. My mckinlee is a fighter. She is stable and doing well. She has a long road ahead of her, but so far, so good.
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Austin... My heart goes out to you for your loss as well as your little girl. My thoughts are with you. You have a road ahead of you and I wish you the best if you need to chat you know how to get ahold of me. I have included a link that may help you.

    http://www.tampabay.com/specials/2012/reports/juniper/

    Very moving article and may help you.

    A thought if you are nursing pump as much as you can and keep us posted on what is going on.

    Hugs to you and your little one.
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Btw I love both names.
  • Tomigrl5Tomigrl5 Posts: 132
    I'm so sorry for your loss.... :(
  • jaimecjaimec Posts: 329
    Oh I am so sorry to be reading this....I can't even imagine what you are going through. Be strong for your baby girl but give yourself time to break down too....no one expects you to be Superwoman! Hugs
  • austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
    My girl continues to impress me and the drs every single day. On Tuesday, she had heart surgery to repair her PDA valve. They told me that next 24-48 hours would be rough, but she has either improved in all areas or stayed stable. I love her dr. There is a team of neonatalogist, but the dr would cared for them the night they were born is her main dr, Dr. McCormick. She is amazing. She has stayed late on several shifts and even picked up an extra shift on Thursday because she said she wanted to be there for the 48 hours after surgery. She might have been lying, but it makes me feel better to think she is that bonded to my baby. The NICU has impressed me so much. They even had Santa come yesterday with a professional photograher, so we got our first Santa pictures:) The nurses and drs are so focused and explain things to me in a way I understand. And they don't mind my 100 questions during each update or call. I couldn't be happier with my baby's progress and the care she is receiving.
  • parisnyparisny Posts: 73
    austingurl -- just came upon this on the board. You have been through so much and I am so pleased that the hospital is treating you and Mckinlee well. Keep up the updates. We're all rooting for you both!!!!!
  • Tomigrl5Tomigrl5 Posts: 132
    that is amazing austingurl! God has a special plan for you and McKinlee. Merry Christmas, and you are in my thoughts, as well as my sister that is also a choice mommy.
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Austin

    I know it is early but if they have a lullibyes program sign up for it. Hunter fell asleep and it was the most amazing program that I could have asked for.

    I will tell you today I went to a graduate NICU program and it was amazing to go back and hear other stories and how well the babies are doing. Keep your spirits up I know how hard it is, if you need anything contact me and I will help any way I can.

    Hugs to both of you and Merry Christmas.
  • parisnyparisny Posts: 73
    So nice to see so much support for austingurl! Merry Christmas everyone!
  • eeh876eeh876 Posts: 168
    Oh, austingurl.
    I just checked back in with the boards after a crazy few months. I am so sorry to see about all of this, but so happy to see how well your little Mckinlee is doing. What a little miracle she is! I hope you both had a fairly uneventful and peaceful Christmas. Hugs.
  • austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
    She is definitely a miracle. She's doing so great. Thanks for all the support. Anissa, I keep meaning to email you but things have been crazy. I was readmitted to the hospital. My c section incision got infected. Me and my girl spent her first Christmas in the hospital. Now I have a wound vac and have to go 3x a week to the clinic for wound care. This has been quite the experience but worth it every time I see my miracle baby.
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