Basic question for the single moms out there - first fertility appt
meremomtobe
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I'm going to the first fertility doctor appointment next week, and super nervous/excited about it. One of my close friends offered to come with me, likely because she is considering it also for alternate reasons, but it kinda made me pause. I don't know if I want to have anyone with me, and if I do, the only people that I would want to join me, live on the other side of the country (I'm in LA, one is in Tennessee, one is in Florida). I'm such an independent person, and I realized when she offered that it's probably odd for me to not even have considered bringing someone.
Did any of you bring people with you to your appointment?
Did any of you bring people with you to your appointment?
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I am grateful for help offered and have shared parts of my journey. The donor selection process was being done with one of my close friends and a handful more knew about what I was up to as I went through the process...
Won't even bring any friend/family member for the delivery. I WILL however bring a doula. So many of my friends with children - but living far away from me - have told me that i "MUST" bring someone.
I feel strangely confident, yet don't want to disregard their experiences, thus decided that a doula probably is the best option. She, if anyone, should know how to "best support". Also, my closest friends where I currently live have not gone through parenthood themselves yet, thus I feel that they cannot do much for me. I know it's just about "being there" but I still feel that they will feel more helpless than strong and supportive. And mysef I trust experience and people who "know what they're doing" - if I panic/go through immense pain/despair/tears/fear/joy/whatever, SHE will have experienced this before and I will trust her advice/support much more, thus the choice of a doula instead...
I have several sisters, one is actually 9weeks pregnant now. So eventually they will be involved probably after 1st trimester. Also my mom is insisting so she is only going to allow me to exclude her to a certain point.
I just don't want to deal with the emotions of other during this journey especially if it requires several cycles.