Anyone use donor 12434?
AmandaP
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Just curious if anyone is currently pregnant with this donor. The andrologist told me his sample was really nice! I had my IUI last week ... so crossing my fingers my 2ww ends in success.
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Erin
LAP
would love some thoughts on your process and if you went with your gut and first choice or not....
thank you
eyesmiles
I searched for a few months and had 3 at the top of my list (12434 was not one of them)
Then I sat down on Friday night, wine in hand and got serious about searching. I honestly can't remember "how' I came across him but once I read the profile I knew he was the one and have never looked again.
Looking back on my old top 3 - this donor is so much more in line with me and what I am looking for and made me wonder why I picked the others. But I never questioned 12434.
Go with what you feel is right, and if you found him early on in your search and feel he is the one then I say you have found him :-)
Good luck RD
thanks again and best of luck
enjoy Labor Day weekend.
rebecca
I was narrowing down my donor choices, and had limited myself, for some reason, to donors 6 feet and taller. Nobody really impressed me as the right choice, and I was really stressing as my IUI date was approaching. I mean, you don't want to settle for 'good enough' with this type of thing!
I happened upon his profile completely by chance two days before I needed to have the sperm sent, and thought, yes!
So obviously we all like this donor, but what absolutely sealed it for me were his comments at the very end of his oral interview, where he talked about the beauty of all family types, not just traditional ones.
I'm so glad to meet you ladies, and congratulations geminigirl!! Please keep me updated.
I'd tried two other donors, bunches of IUI's, and a previous IVF without success, but so far it's going well.
Best of luck to everyone.
I'm based in Manhattan. Anyone else in the Bos-Wash corridor? Once the kids arrive *crosses fingers they arrive healthy*, it'd be nice to connect with half-siblings.
-Amy
So glad to hear from someone in Manhattan! I live in Manhattan - Chelsea. Going to be single mom too. My first IUI with 12434 will be first week in October. But I bargained with my doc that we'll do no more than ~3 IUI's before switching to IVF, and I'm 35 with good numbers myself, so hopefully I will be in the 12434 pregnancy club soon!
I know we all have different views on half siblings, and I guess I won't REALLY know until baby is in my arms, but right now I see very little reason to not have my child be friends with any half siblings whose parents are up for it. Two single moms with kids from the same donor both living in manhattan? To me that seems like a great excuse for joint trips to the zoo, museums, parks, etc from time to time.
Good luck for a healthy rest of the pregnancy! I'd love to exchange real emails if and when you are comfortable doing so. I can see you wanting to wait until I actually am pregnant too.
I am not really a 'bulletin board/chat' person but I also live in Manhattan and in Chelsea -- waht a small world. I am starting the process and hope to have my first IUI in a couple weeks. I am keeping my circle very small and quite so it feels a bit strange to post this but I couldn't resist...
I will check back in once in as things move along. I agree with Amy that I probably won't know how I really feel about the half sibling issue until it is a reality for me but as of today I think it is just a new normal. Would be nice to get in contact sometime in the future if you are interested. I just don't want to plan too much ahead -- I am bit superstitious :-)
Hope to be part of the NYC donor 12434 club soon!
Enjoy your weekend.
Rebecca
p.s. not sure if you are a memnber of SMC but they are having an interesting weekend event October 15th. it is here in NY and is about life as a single mother, issues you face, etc. but most importantly they will have a panel of adult children born from donor sperm speaking. check out www.singlemothersbychoice.org and click the celebration link for details
I think that most people here are normal and would respect boundaries with respect to half sibling meetups. Whoever wants the lesser level of interaction decides the terms, right? It doesn't have to be weird if someone is open to more interaction than someone else is. Being open is quite different than being pushy :)
Anyway, fwiw, I am open to cycle buddies, pregnancy buddies, anything. I think being a choice mom is a unique thing with its own challenges, and being able to share with someone who knows can help a lot. The woman down the hall from me is a choice mom with 2 children. But they are 8 & 10. So while I talk to her and while seeing how well adjusted her children are helped me be more sure, it's not the same thing. I would like to have a connection to someone (or multiple people) who is going through the same thing - whether it's dealing with the 2WW alone, deciding actual birth and hospital plans (do we depend on our moms? ask a friend?) ... and then of course all the situations down the road - whether answering questions that other people ask or answering your child's questions. Anyway ... if anyone is actually interested in a friendly ear, whether you are local or not, I'm game. I think building support networks is a wonderful thing, and while friends are great, friends who "know" are probably pretty important to have too.
Anyway - totally excited. I'm PMSing right now because I'm expecting CD1 in just a few days .... and I think this is the first time I've been excited for it!
I am in Florida, had my first IUI yesterday and I am doing this alone. Would love to chat. If you are on facebook, look me up or email me. ang3210@gmail.com
I wish you both the best of luck in your IUI's, but I also want to day don't give up if they don't work. 6 IUI's got me nothing more than a chemical pregnancy. My first IVF got me pregnant, but the poor critter stopped growing at 7 weeks. My second IVF got me these twins, though!
I did genetic testing (CVS) on my twins, since I'm 40 now, and I was 39 when I conceived, so I know already that they don't have genetic abnormalities (well, one of 'em is a carrier for Familial Dysautonomia, just like me, but doesn't have the disease), and I know that I've got 1 boy and 1 girl.
Since I've been dreaming about having kids for so long, I've already got the names picked out too. David and Elspeth.
The anatomy ultrasound is next Friday, and I'm hoping they look good.
Good luck Ang!!! Every day already seems like forever to me, and I haven't even had my IUI yet. Hope you have an easy and happy ending 2ww!
I FB friended you. I'm not quite comfortable posting my email address here (I suppose I could make a slightly anonymous one). But if other people email you then we can all be on an email thread together.
I'm on CD 2 right now, so I'm expecting my IUI to be around Oct 3 or so!
I am SO EXCITED
I would really appreciate it if anyone has extra vials that they will not be using.
Thanks.
You and I are about 1 day apart in the process :-) I am on CD 1 right now and looking to have my first IUI a day or so after you.
So we wil be in the 2ww at the same time!
I hope it goes well for both of us!
Ang - hope you just started your 2ww - so sending good thoughts you way too.
Riley and roxydyan, if my cycle would come (supposed to come today, but figures since I want it to arrive it has yet to show :-)
we will probably be on very similar timing.
I'd love to know if any of you are trying IUI just plain and simple for your first time? I am supposed to have an HSG test next week (a bit nervous that it'll be painful). Then I would have my first IUI but if my period doesn't come in time I think I am still going to attempt my first IUI without the HSG test. The dr. wants to do the test just because of my age, there are no signs that I have any problems. In my heart I just don't know if I could wait another month before I try.....
Sending positive energy to you all.
Take care.
Rebecca
Fingers crossed for you that your cycle starts soon!
I know the feeling of having to wait another month - I ovulated the day before Labor day and therefore couldn't order my vital to be overnighted to me. I was disappointed as I didn't want to wait another month but nothing we can do really.
I had my HSG last month - to be honest it was like a sharp period pain...uncomfortable but ok. My doctor told me to get it done as she pointed out - we are paying alot for a vital so why not make sure the tubes are clear. Not sure if it was about my age (I'm 38) Like you so far nothing is pointing to me having any problems -my LH level is 6, I have a regular cycle and I ovulate each month, so my doctor has recommended I go all natural for the first time.
Though I am on a time crunch, I am moving back home to Australia by the new year (and it is very difficult to get it done there) and at first I only bought 2 vitals and went to buy more and now he is out :-(( so I am REALLY hoping it takes the first or 2nd time. If not I will keep an eye on this post to see if anyone is selling any and will back here to have it done.
I guess a positive note if we are all successful then your child will have a half sibling in Australia lol!
firstly, I've created an email that I'm willing to share here
rileyccb@gmail.com
GOOD LUCK ROXY! I really hope both of us win the IUI Lottery!
Rebecca - I haven't had an HSG test ... :/ That worries me a little. My doc is just assuming I'm fertile because he has no reason to think I'm not (although I am 35 ...). The ultrasounds and bloodwork show I am fertile and I have no history of trying+failing to get pregnant. But tubal stuff has not been checked. He wanted to try a plain natural cycle for IUI number 1, but I wanted more aggressive (I was willing to go straight to IVF). We compromised at Clomid+Trigger. I'm CD3 right now and will start Clomid Thursday morning on CD5. My guess is for and IUI Oct 3/4/5 or therabouts. If attempt #1 doesn't work, I'm going to ask for a tubal check before going ahead with IUI #2.
Good luck to you both! And everyone!
I didn't think I'd be into this bulletin board thing but it is so helpful to get answers and words of encouragement -- I am keeping it all quiet now within my close circle as there is nothing yet to be excited about sop it is nice to have a place to go and 'chat'.
Still no cycle :( but I am calm and not stressing out about it at all. I've decided that I will probaby try a cycle even if I am not able to have my HSG test. Initially I wasn't even going to have the test so maybe it is the universe telling me that a simple, plain, untested try may work :)
fingers crossed even though I know the % of success this way are quite low.
Sending you all positive energy.
Enjoy the day, I think the sun is going to show it's face!
Rebecca
p.s. roxy, thanks for your help with the choosing process
iliachristy@gmail.com
thanks
Rebecca I was just thinking about you and hoping your cycle has started so you can start the process :-)
Riley you must be getting ready for next week like me - when are your ordering your vital? I am debating when to do that as last month I ovulated 4 days earlier than I expected and it fell on a public holiday so want to be prepared for this month!!
Hope you both are well!
Roxy
Am a bit conflicted about whether I should do the HSG (tube) test prior to my first round. It is scheduled for Monday after my ultrasound but part of me feels like I should try one time without the test....
I initially thought I would just try a simple and plain attempt, no tests, etc.
I admit part of me is scared for the test and it's easier to just try without and keep my fingers crossed.
Any thoughts....
Best of luck to us all.
Enjoy the day.
Rebecca
Congrats on progress Rebecca! So glad when things get moving.
Roxy - my vials are sitting at me RE. I ordered them a week or two ago for delivery (I sent 4 ...). My RE will store up to 6 vials, so I sent enough for 2-3 attempts (perhaps pessimistically, but they'll store them for sibling #2 if my first IUI takes). With them there was no such thing as too early ...
I'm on CD 10. Go in for monitoring on Thursday (CD12). Hope I get to trigger sooner rather than later. The days are CREEPING BY!
Rebecca - I didn't get an HSG test ... Maybe I should have. I'll ask for one if IUI #1 fails.
This month was really strange for me - I am usually very regular and this month I was late and my cycle has been much lighter than normal. I read online (which I swore I wouldn't do) and it says that you still ovulate even if your period is lighter than normal if you are someone who is usually regular.
My doctor has me coming in for my ultrasound on CD 9. I promised myself I wouldn't get all 'crazy' with tracking and stuff but it is hard not to think about it because I want it to happen :-)
Trying to keep myself occupied. I already imagine that the 2 week wait after IUI #1 is going to be brutal. I should have planned a vacation!
Best of luck.
Rebecca