Donor 13907 - medical profile
babymama123
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Hello all, I've decided on moving forward with Donor 13907 - has anyone gotten pregnant with him? My main concern is that his father was born with a single kidney (my doc and genetic counselor has assured me this may be a one off issue plus the donor's dad is hale and healthy at 68) but I'm still concerned. Should I be?
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No one's reported pregnancies so far. I'm hoping that I will!
The big debate is how many embryos to put in. How many are you thinking of doing?? At this point I'm thinking two.
I know a lot of women travel to the states for IVF and donor sperm. The first time I got pregnant the woman who was also pregnant by the donor I was using at the time came from Chile, I believe. What country do you live in?
I'm still worried about the donor dad/one kidney thing, I've been told it's not usually genetic - but what if it is? I'm going to speak to another counselor on Monday.
With choosing a donor there is much debate. I preferred an open donor because if my child is anything like me they would be curious as to who their biological father is, however, I ended up with this donor because he had the qualities I was looking for in a donor. It is a balancing act as to all the other qualities one is looking for in a donor. But this is twenty years from now, perhaps the donor would be willing at that point to show an adult photo and have an email conversation with offspring. There's no guarantees either way.
What qualities were you looking for in a donor? The three things I was looking for were intelligence/high grades particularly in math and science, athletics, and someone who CCB said was attractive. Background was not important to me as to his heritage. The other donors I used looked different than me, where as some women say they wanted a lookalike from their background. This time around the only donor I like is this one but he happens to look very similar to me. I have brown, wavy hair and green eyes. I think I'm just in all aspects a couple of shades lighter than this donor. My background is Russian and Irish/German which is similar to Ukranian and English. So although I wasn't looking for a lookalike child, I just may end up with one! Did you notice how red his lips were as a child? I had that too, with the dark hair and the light eyes.
I haven't been able to track down a genetic counselor to talk about the (donor's dad's) renal agenesis yet, but have decided to take the chance and take a leap of faith and hope that everything works out fine. My embryo transfer is scheduled for end of October! Fingers crossed - for both of us :)
I met with my fertility doc today and he would like to do at least a couple of months of egg harvesting so then we can do genetic testing on the embryos to make sure that good ones are going in. So I'm guessing my implantation won't be until at least December. Are you doing embryo testing? I debated with my Dr. this morning about how many to implant and I think it would depend upon the quality of the embryos. He said for me it would be about a 40% chance of it "taking".
I saw Deliveryman at some point during this process. I wondered if it would scare some men away from donating. But on the other hand it must be neat to think of your progeny growing up all over the world.
On another note, I had a trip planned and paid for to go to India last summer, but ended up not going because of all the vaccination shots I would have to take I worried about that putting me out of the getting pregnant game for while. My friend went without me and she had a fantastic time. Is the societal reaction different to a single mother by choice in India? Will it be more of a challenge for you?
Sweettheartt