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I Need to Hear from Those Who Weren't Given Much Hope
BabyJazz
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I am 38 years old. I always knew I wanted kids. I didnt put my career ahead of having kids. I just kept holding out to meet the right man to have kids with. It was not easy, but I finally let go of that idea...only it may be too late for me. I got the results of my basal follicle count, FSH, Clomid Challenge, and AMH today. I went in with a long list of questions about my chances of still possibly conceiving the natural way, IUI, how many cycles with or without drugs, sperm banks, costs, local support groups (getting in touch with other single moms in the making), etc... NEVER, EVER did I expect to hear that even with in vitro, the chances of me having a child with my own eggs is less than 5%. I thought I had gotten over the absolute hardest part of this journey by letting go of the husband first idea and becoming comfortable with my decision financially. This has hit me like a ton of bricks. I am all for the use of an egg donor and adoption. I just never thought those would be my best options. It also took a while to be okay with the idea of not knowing the father. The idea of looking at that child and seeing me helped. Now, that's pretty much being taken away from me. Have some of you been told this but beat the odds anyway? My doctor said he would do whatever I want him to do...Several cycles of IUI, In Vitro with my own eggs (if any can be extracted). In so many words, he said anything is possible, but he was being real wtih me. My total BAFC was around 7. My FSH and Clomid Challenge were 17.3 and 6.3. My AMH was 0.2. He says the AMH pretty much confirms the high FSH. This is so very hard. Everyone assumed I would be fine. Me, being such the picture of health. I can blame no one. If I blame anyone, I can only blame myself. Still, I would love to go out and WHACK just about every ex-boyfriend I wasted precious time with. Someone out there...give me hope. Tell me your outlook was as bleak as mine but that you still had a successful pregnancy with your own eggs.
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Don't give up yet... take a deep breath and start learning about yourself... that's what I've done... and I'm still trying. Sami had a patient with a FSH of 100... yes I said ONE HUNDRED... and after some simple medical tests and getting her hormones back in order, she went on to get pregnant... it's on page 218 of the book.
hope this helps..
Three years ago my FSH was 18. Now it is 21. I got pregnant this summer - totally unexpected with a relatively new boyriend. Unfortunately there was no heart beat at the 8 week ultrasound. BUT, the doctors tell me it was great news I got pregnant so easily and quickly and that I should keep trying. It is possible - they just can't know the quality of every single egg. But we high FSH gals have lower success rates. Look into the supplement DHEA - my dr. recommended it. And acupuncture. My acupuncturist tell me he can lower my FSH. We'll see... I'm on second IUI this month and just waiting patiently to ovulate over here!!!
Its all about your Faith! Sometimes lab makes mistake and sometimes their results are subectives. I am great believer that 2011 will be a fertile year for all of us. I am 41 and going to try my first IUI next month. Wishing everyone fertile, healthy and happy year! Sending you all some sun waves from the sunshine state!
Good luck today and tomorrow!! I know that this year is our year....Where is Fl? Stay in touch> Gooooooooooooood Luck!!
This morning was so easy. No pain, no nothing. It took less than a minute for the procedure. Wow!!! I had a little slight cramping when I got up to leave but it wasn't painful. Now, I don't feel anything really. My mom was there with me this morning. It was really cool. I'm sure not too many kids can say their grandma was present when they were conceived. LOL!
I'm in West Palm Beach. Where are you?
How do you feel? I hope to hear good news!!
I am just south of you...which RE do you go to?
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When you go back for your IUI, the nurse will tell you the counts and let you see the vial from CCB with the number on it. You sign a form saying that you verified it. Now, they tell you the sperm count, but it doesn't mention motility percentage. Laura said the count they give you is all good moving sperm. So they don't do motility percentages. Could be that because my guy was 17 mill each day, there was no need to do percentages. Maybe they would do motility percentages if the count was too low.
On Friday, Lana did my IUI. She was nice. But I didn't really connect with her. She seemed really busy and like I was bothering her with all of my questions.
On Saturday, I had Laura. I specifically requested Laura. She didn't work on Friday. So, that's why I didn't request her on Friday. But she is patient and will happily answer all of your questions, no matter how stupid. I must admit I've had a lot of questions and have spoken with her a few times before my IUI. I think I connected with her before my IUI just because I'd spoken with her so many times before
Don't get me wrong, Lana was nice. But Laura was the best!!!!
All in all IVF Florida is a wonderful practice. I love it there.
It really is nice having someone in the same practice, going through the same thing, at the exact same time. We can compare notes and everything!!
It's wonderful. Yeah, the grandma at conception thing is really funny right!! I don't know how I'm gonna explain this to my child without bursting into uncontrollable laughter!!! :-)
I am in S. Florida as well.
I went to IVF of Florida 2 yrs ago when I was in my relationship. We were planning a baby together and given my age I wanted to get all checked out so I chose IVF of FL. However, little known to me, my deceptive ex had other things in mind and cheated... so no baby plans. However, I have now decided to do it on my own (at age 40).
I changed from IVF of FL to Palm Beach (Dr. Denker) only because I know I will be reminded of my ex if I go to IVF again.
I had my first appt with him two days ago. He did an US and showed me an egg ... told me looks like Im ovulating a bit early. He ordered all the typical tests, so I will do those upon the next cycle. I am here looking for a donor.
This whole process is exciting and strange (picking sperm from a catelog) at the same time - LOL.
Sooooo just wanted to say hello to the S. FL ladies and wish you the best. I can't wait until I am at the stage (insemination) that you all are.
xoxoxoxo
Regards!!
I love your attitude and your faith!! It will take you through the process with flying colors!!!! And yes, 2011 is our year!
I'm glad that you have finally decided to post you gave great inspiration and support so Thank You. I too am God fearing and I believe that He has a plan for all of us. I found this quote from the bible and I think it can help us all.
"Have faith in God," Jesus answered. "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours."
- Mark 11:22-24