Dating
SeattleSuz
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Wondering how other women have handled dating while going through this process? I have a date later this week and since I didn't get pregnant after last IUI it obviously makes it easier-- ie I'll be able to have a drink-- but I have no idea how to approach it all. I'm definitely not sharing anything on a first date...but...any advice or guidance?
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I can't help give you any advice, but I was wondering the same thing! I'm looking at my first IUI at the end of September sometime, and (of course) just started some email conversation with a guy from match.com. Strange how life works, isn't it?
And thanks ladies for sharing. Good luck in this awkward and yet SO exciting process!
I think if I do end up going out with this guy, it will make it a little easier because we are old friends, he is divorced and has teenage children so he probably doesn't want any more babies. And he def sees that I'm not looking for a baby daddy. LOL.
Good luck!
I've had 4 failed IUI's now and he's been very supportive throughout each one. I've switched donors now and should be having my 5th attempt at the end of the month. Congratulations on your BFP btw!!!! :)
I had actually been dating someone over the last 15 months, somewhat seriously at first, then took a three month break and recently we were talking again but I wasn't set on him being "the one." I recently broke it off totally because he was uncomfortable with the donor process and didn't approve of my choice to use an anonymous donor vs him. We discussed it at length and I gave him the option to get tested to see if he could even be the donor but he never made the choice to do that on his own and I refused to force him. That's no way to get a donor! When I told him that I was proceeding with the insemination without him, he was shocked. It was a sad day because he was a good guy but in the end, I know in my heart that he would not have been the best option.
I'm settled in my decision with my donor but dating is so hard. I really think that I should just focus on being happy and healthy alone for the process and know that when God sees fit to bring an awesome man into my life, that he will and it will be right.
I will do my 1st IUI attempt next week sometime. I start my LH tests on Sunday! So excited....and SO nervous!
Good luck on IUI#2 SeattleSuz and Dizzyblue44 you have an awesome guy! Austingurl, thanks for your honesty and I'm glad you got a good friend. I had hoped for that but it just didn't pan out. And I concur...you will know when the time is right to bring up the topic.
Hang in there girls!
And his first response actually when I told him was "have you seen the Jennifer Lopez movie?...Wellllllll" hahaha!
I decided not to date or get involved with anyone for the rest of my pregnancy. My daughter is now 17 months and I just think it would be unfair to split my focus with a romantic interest at this point. My daughter needs my full attention. Perhaps things will change when she gets a bit older.
Happy Dating!
I've been talking to the same guy for about a month now, I had my initial consultation Friday and he stayed on the phone with me all thursday night talking to me because I was so nervous that I couldn't sleep. Then after my appointment he came over and kept me company while I talked everything out. He told me that if it makes me happy, he is happy for me and will be supportive the whole way.
You are so right, if they don't accept it, they aren't the right one.
I am so excited that I found someone supportive, whether it ends up being more or not. The joy I saw in his face when I told him just made my heart smile and that is what it's about. I even cut ties and all contact with an ex that was negative and unsupportive because I didn't want to deal with his stress. This little bean needs all the positive and happy thoughts to be healthy. None of us have time for the negative nellies out there.
Good luck and keep us up to date!!!
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