I'd like to thank all of you ladies who have posted on this board. Reading your conversations has helped me feel not so much alone. I myself will turn 38 next month and am attepting to get pregnant for the first time. I find that I have been regretting waiting so long. How is this for irony? I was married, we didnt have kids, he acted like a kid himself. After that I had a string of disapointing boyfriends that didnt inspire me to want to have a kid with them. Now I have a great, loving man in my life and he's had a vasectomy! So here I am....buying sperm...from strangers and strange men. We arent married so I still consider myself single in a way. It wont be my b/'sf child, it will be mine. I have the same doubt's but belive it's truly worth it. I would like to have people to talk to about the experience. I just underwent my first IUI and had my period start 14 days later. Would anyone else like to share their first IUI experience?
Although I read posts each day, I haven't read this thread in a while and so glad I did. It really makes all the difference having you ladies to chat with about the same issues. I have dated everyone in the S. Fl. area... (haha) A bit of sarcasm. At almost 38 I decided that dating is still very important to me, but I really want to focus on being a mom. I was recently set up on a blind date from my sister's boyfriend. Really clicked with him. The 4 of us went out and I thought, wow, this was great. Since this is her boyfriends really close friend, he did tell him about my journey for motherhood. He was really cool about it, but then he got a little spoofed. He said to my sister's boyfriend that if we started dating, would I pressure him to want kids right away. Now, normaly, if I meet a guy I wouldn't tell him this right away, but in this situation it was the right thing to do. I always wait for the guy to call. I'm a strong girl who won't call. If he really likes me then he will. In this situation, I'm wondering if I should make the initial call. My sister's boyfriend said he was really interested but concerned about baby pressure to soon. What are your thoughts???
I was all ready to start this process earlier in the year, and in May I met a guy on match.com. We hit it off, but I was still having major baby fever. One night in a conversation, I told him that I had been planning to pursue single motherhood. It kind of freaked him out. It was clear that I'm not willing to wait very long. He's at a point in his career where having kids now isn't a priority. He wants them eventually, but right now he doesn't feel ready to put all of his time and effort into starting a family.
Obviously, we don't know each other well enough yet to plan a family. We haven't even officially become a couple yet. BUT, he's willing to stick around while I go forward with IUI and becoming a mom. I'm not looking for a dad here, but it will be nice if he actually sticks around for a while. Kind of my own version of "The Backup Plan."
SO... maybe this guy will work out for you. Keep dating him. Don't put off the baby while you wait - what if it doesn't work out? You'd HATE yourself for it. But if he's the right guy, he'll accept your situation. What if you had kids already when you met?
Thanks for responding. I asked my sister if I should give him a call or a text. She said to wait that her boyfriend is going to call him tonight. I have a great relationship with her bf and he really thinks we're a good match. Honestly, if and when I become pregnant through a donor, I would love to have the male companionship. I've decided to just be open minded and whatever happens happens. I really want to be a mom and right now that is my main focus. Like you said, Abby, if I had a child what would he do? I would totally regret not continuing with this. I might have to date slightly different than I normally do, but obviously my old way hasn't brought me Mr. Right so I'm always up for change.
Maybe through friendship, he'll fall madly in love. Just like in the movies. :)
I was so thrilled to fine this bulletin board on the cryo website. I am 41 and have been considering this road if I didn't find the "right one". Unfortunately, I went through the loss of both of my parents which pushed my plan back a few years. I am so thrilled and excited to be on this path.
I did get pregnant but lost the baby this week at 17 weeks. It has been a huge blow. I am in the process of letting my body heal and search for understanding of why. I suspect that my amniocentesis may have been a factor because my water broke 3 days after the test.(I did follow all of my doctor's instructions to the "T")
I had all of these same questions that because even more anxiety provoking when I found out that I was pregnant.
After going through my experience I know now without a doubt that I want to try this again.
I would love to connect with you all to share experiences and learn together on how to the be best mother that I can be. :)
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So here I am....buying sperm...from strangers and strange men. We arent married so I still consider myself single in a way. It wont be my b/'sf child, it will be mine.
I have the same doubt's but belive it's truly worth it. I would like to have people to talk to about the experience. I just underwent my first IUI and had my period start 14 days later. Would anyone else like to share their first IUI experience?
I was all ready to start this process earlier in the year, and in May I met a guy on match.com. We hit it off, but I was still having major baby fever. One night in a conversation, I told him that I had been planning to pursue single motherhood. It kind of freaked him out. It was clear that I'm not willing to wait very long. He's at a point in his career where having kids now isn't a priority. He wants them eventually, but right now he doesn't feel ready to put all of his time and effort into starting a family.
Obviously, we don't know each other well enough yet to plan a family. We haven't even officially become a couple yet. BUT, he's willing to stick around while I go forward with IUI and becoming a mom. I'm not looking for a dad here, but it will be nice if he actually sticks around for a while. Kind of my own version of "The Backup Plan."
SO... maybe this guy will work out for you. Keep dating him. Don't put off the baby while you wait - what if it doesn't work out? You'd HATE yourself for it. But if he's the right guy, he'll accept your situation. What if you had kids already when you met?
Good luck - with the guy and the baby!
Abby
Thanks for responding. I asked my sister if I should give him a call or a text. She said to wait that her boyfriend is going to call him tonight. I have a great relationship with her bf and he really thinks we're a good match. Honestly, if and when I become pregnant through a donor, I would love to have the male companionship. I've decided to just be open minded and whatever happens happens. I really want to be a mom and right now that is my main focus. Like you said, Abby, if I had a child what would he do? I would totally regret not continuing with this. I might have to date slightly different than I normally do, but obviously my old way hasn't brought me Mr. Right so I'm always up for change.
Maybe through friendship, he'll fall madly in love. Just like in the movies. :)
I was so thrilled to fine this bulletin board on the cryo website. I am 41 and have been considering this road if I didn't find the "right one". Unfortunately, I went through the loss of both of my parents which pushed my plan back a few years. I am so thrilled and excited to be on this path.
I did get pregnant but lost the baby this week at 17 weeks. It has been a huge blow. I am in the process of letting my body heal and search for understanding of why. I suspect that my amniocentesis may have been a factor because my water broke 3 days after the test.(I did follow all of my doctor's instructions to the "T")
I had all of these same questions that because even more anxiety provoking when I found out that I was pregnant.
After going through my experience I know now without a doubt that I want to try this again.
I would love to connect with you all to share experiences and learn together on how to the be best mother that I can be. :)
My email is melanie_t@yahoo.com