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I need some advice.
malariejo
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Hello, my name is Malarie.
I want to ask a few questions and get advice for my situation. I am young, some say too young to be worrying about having a child. I am 20 years old, my family has PCOS among most every woman *my mother, my grandmother, Greatgrandmother,& GReat great grandmother. I recently found out that I have had 'Multiple ruptured ovarian cysts'. Which lead to figuring out that i have endometriosis. The doctor wanted to begin treatment and one of the side effects of the laser surgery was-infertility. I have decided to go ahead and use a sperm donor-then start treatment after the baby is born. My family is very supportive of this decision. I guess what i am wanting is some advice from people who have actually had to face this realization of deciding to have a child sooner than you expected rather than waiting too long and losing your chance at your own biological child. My boyfriend's family is absolutely against this. They keep telling me that i will regret my decision. And that adoption is the only option i have and 15 years down the road. The woman telling me that had 5 planned children.
Well Thanks for reading this, I just need some advice from people who have been through this.
Malarie.
I want to ask a few questions and get advice for my situation. I am young, some say too young to be worrying about having a child. I am 20 years old, my family has PCOS among most every woman *my mother, my grandmother, Greatgrandmother,& GReat great grandmother. I recently found out that I have had 'Multiple ruptured ovarian cysts'. Which lead to figuring out that i have endometriosis. The doctor wanted to begin treatment and one of the side effects of the laser surgery was-infertility. I have decided to go ahead and use a sperm donor-then start treatment after the baby is born. My family is very supportive of this decision. I guess what i am wanting is some advice from people who have actually had to face this realization of deciding to have a child sooner than you expected rather than waiting too long and losing your chance at your own biological child. My boyfriend's family is absolutely against this. They keep telling me that i will regret my decision. And that adoption is the only option i have and 15 years down the road. The woman telling me that had 5 planned children.
Well Thanks for reading this, I just need some advice from people who have been through this.
Malarie.
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I think it is also a good idea to start since you know about the problems you have... I am 46 years and am facing the choice of having a child who is only one-third mine now... I listened too long to people who had NO business telling me what to do with MY life. I'm just happy that this option exists for me to even have children... and you should be too.
You're absolutely correct, your little one will have your blood in their veins and that is all that matters. Good luck to you.
Michelle
I would suggest your start with contacting your insurance carrier for fertility coverage and for a list of IVF Clinics. Most insurance companies will cover doctor visits and the basic infertility evaluation exams, so factor just your co-pay for seeing a specialist, if applicable. Now for your timeline, schedule your first appointment just before your menstrual start, the reasons being, most infertility tests are done at specific times during your menstrual cycle. All tests are cumulative and you will be informed of the results during a formal consultation with your physician. At this appointment, your physician will indicated which course of treatment is best for you, IUI or IVF and usually your first cycle starts the following month. The physician will also tell you which type of sperm to purchase as well as how many vials from the cryobank based on your results. And yes, I would suggest you contact the cryobank about that sperm donor asap.
It always amazes me that lucky people consider their good fortune to be a form of moral superiority that gives them the right to judge others. This woman has no right to ask you to give up on your chance to ever have a biological child just because the circumstances make her personally uncomfortable. It is easly for her to say "just adopt". She never had to face that choice. By and large living things, including human beings, are hardwired not only to want to nurture young, but to actually reproduce and pass on their genes. There is nothing wrong and everything right with that. Don't worry about your age. Twenty-year-old women have been having and successfully raising babies with and without fathers for 200,000 plus years. Having kids is hard at any age. The support of two loving grandparents who are actually young enough to help will be a blessing.
Felisa:
Depending on where you are in your cycle when you have the first appointment, what you learn about your fertility and what type of proceedure you are starting with your first insemination and/or retreval should be in 2 to 12 weeks.