Open vs anonymous donor

Ash1313Ash1313 Posts: 4
in LGBTQ+ Couples
I know everyone has a different reason or opinion for choosing an open or anonymous donor but we are having a hard time choosing. We have researched both but need to make decision ASAP as we are ready to inseminate. We feel we should leave this open to our child to decide if they want to meet the donor, but keep going back and fourth. Any input or experiences would be helpful. Thanks :)

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  • tffotffo Posts: 94
    Since I'm going to be a single mom, I felt that it was only fair to my child that they have someone who has for sure agreed to contact. Also I have a mom who is adopted and I know what it's like to wonder about your birth parents. And I felt that especially if I were to have a boy, it might be more important to him to meet the man that helped make him.

    But if I had a partner in this with me, I might be less stringent on only picking open donors. Because at least my child would have two parents. It's a tough call. I'm sorry I probably wasn't much help, but I think when it comes to choosing a donor you should trust your gut and your heart and pick the one that seems the most right for you and the rest will work itself out. CCB will try to contact anonymous donors and sometimes they do say yes to contact through an intermediary. Good luck!
  • Ash1313Ash1313 Posts: 4
    Thanks so much for your input :-)
  • Sf13Sf13 Posts: 84
    @tiffo- I couldn't have said it better. :)
    Going through this without a partner I feel like I should give my child the opportunity to decide whether or not they want to meet their biological father. How can I know what my child might want 18 years from now? I'd like to leave that door open for them if I can. Just my two cents worth.
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