Miscarriage

Babyin2014Babyin2014 Posts: 63
in Single Mothers by Choice
Hi all, Sorry I've been away from the boards for so long. You are all always on my mind, though, and I pray every day for healthy babies for you all.

I found out last Monday that my baby was dead. Went in for a routine 13-week ultrasound and Bean was underdeveloped and there was no heartbeat. I am heartbroken. I love that little baby and had no idea anything was wrong. It appears that Bean died sometime around week 9. At week 7 I saw a healthy baby and a strong heartbeat on the ultrasound. I keep asking myself how this could have happened and if I could have done anything to prevent it. My doctor says it was probably a chromosomal abnormality.

Love you all,
Amy, 42
IUI#1 BFN, IUI#2 MC

Comments

  • SweetthearttSweettheartt Posts: 373
    Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. Frankly the fact that you were pregnant was an inspiration to me, I am three years younger and having some difficulty getting pregnant at all. My close friend who is 42 had the same thing happen recently and now she is pregnant again just a short time after. I know that is small consulation that the pregnancy did not continue, but in your times of sadness think of how your body is still fertile and that it will happen for you. If not now, soon. My eyes are tearing over your sadness and just know this whole community of women have had their share of difficulties, whatever they may be which is why we are all here. You are not alone in this and I am glad we all found a place to connect.
  • Babyin2014Babyin2014 Posts: 63
    Thank you Sweettheartt. What is the latest with you? How are you doing?
    Amy
  • SweetthearttSweettheartt Posts: 373
    Thank you for asking. No known issues other than age. IUI three times all BFN. All with the same donor. From now on I think I'm going to switch every time. There is enough to choose from. Took a month off this month. The hormones can be a lot. I needed a break from the mood changes. I will try again next month.
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Amy I am so sorry to hear about the babies. It sucks. There is nothing in the world that I can say to you that will help. I have had a MC and it sucks, but I do have a healthy baby boy, who turns 1 today. It can happen. I have friends older than you who have had babies. Let yourself be sad and cry. A lot of woman on here have had MC and then have carried healthy babies. Good luck and we are hear to listen to you vent, cry and anything else you want. Hopefully you will try again.
  • parisnyparisny Posts: 73
    Just a quick note to say that I'm so sorry to hear this news, Amy. I hope you and Sweetthartt soon have the same good fortune as others on the board, and as Amy!
  • katrinlkatrinl Posts: 41
    Amy,

    So sorry to hear and want to send you a big support hug ! Words don't mean much in times like this but hope they can give a a ray of sunshine knowing you have people that wish you nothing bt the best !!
  • a_walton2a_walton2 Posts: 236
    Amy I am so sorry. Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for you. Snding you ((((HUGS)))). You are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • lookingforwardtobeingamotherlookingforwardtobeingamother Posts: 109
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Just like Sweethoeart said at least you know that you can get pregnant. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it. Do not punish yourself. I hope you find some peace and the strength to continue on your journey.
  • daizies79daizies79 Posts: 13
    Amy,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I just found out that I had an ectopic pregnancy and I was at 8 weeks. I went in for emergency surgery on Friday night. We are all here for you. You have given us all so much inspiration.
  • mom2b721mom2b721 Posts: 23
    Amy, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you big hugs, and thoughts and prayers.I'm just returning to the boards after a few months off. I'm going to try for round 3 IUI this month. Hope to read more about you soon.

    Colleen
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