How to respond to toddlers questions

SRV1SRV1 Posts: 3
in Single Mothers by Choice
A little background: I'm a 47 year old single mother of a pre school child whose dad is active in her life, although we split when our little one was 1. My little one (LO) has been asking me for a sibling almost since being able to talk. I want a sibling for LO, and want another child in our family more than almost anything. I am currently in the process of IVF using Donor Sperm.

Here is my question...My little one (LO)understands that to make a baby you need a boy and a girl. And the boy gives his half to the girl and girl gives her half. LO is facinated with this idea and asks me for and makes plans for when I having another baby & sibling for LO. Once LO knows I'm pregnant I know one of the first questions I'm going to get is asking me about where the boys half came from to make the baby. I'm looking for some help figuring out how to explain how I am pregnant when there is no man in my life who gave me his "half",and that this long awaited sibling will not have a daddy, especially when LO's daddy is so important to LO.

Either personal experience, stories/suggestions, or if anyone knows any reading material about this, I'd be so appreciative.

Comments

  • becky1141becky1141 Posts: 164
    "The Adventures of Princess Mommy" is a book for young children. I plan to use this book when I tell my 7 year old daughter. I also plan to explain to her that I went to the doctor's office and they helped me with the other "half". There are other books out there too, possibly some that are better for younger children.
  • BanditBandit Posts: 348
    Another book, I just received from a single mom as well

    You are my Wish Come True by Marianne Richmond. It talks about how she wished for her baby. It does mention that not all families are the same. Good luck.

    SRV1 good luck I have several friends your age that just had kids.
  • rabrab Posts: 10
    SRV1, Becky, and Anissa-

    Great post! Your question and responses definitely helps me as well... (hopefully) for when I begin to explain this to my "LO" (love that, btw!).

    Thanks!

    rab
  • austingurlaustingurl Posts: 202
    I had to explain to my 5yr old nephew when he asked why my baby had no dad. I simply said I wanted a baby very badly, so I went to a dr who helped me make a baby without a daddy. He accepted that answer with no problems.
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