Ready to do this on my own

OnMyOwn2015OnMyOwn2015 Posts: 3
in Single Mothers by Choice
I am 39 years, single and have wanted to have kids for several years now. I have decided to move forward to do this on my own. I froze my eggs last year (3 healthy viable eggs) and curious if anyone out there is in the same boat. I am trying to decide between doing an IUI first or just thaw one of my eggs and go with IVF.
Thoughts .... advise ?????
Thanks

Comments

  • aeckaeck Posts: 5
    I am single and had a baby after 4 IUIs at age 37. That process is much less expensive and it does work! I say try that first :)
  • HopeThisWorks22HopeThisWorks22 Posts: 2
    I'm about to embark on my first IUI. I'm also 39. Glad to hear that it works.
  • islandgirl88islandgirl88 Posts: 2
    I am 38 and starting this process, excited and nervous. I have done the testing and now am ready for the next step. Hopefully IUI in the next month or two, anyone have advice?
  • ComeonbabyComeonbaby Posts: 9
    I am 39 and single as well. Did 3 iuis with no luck but I just had 2 embryos transferred today via ivf. I had to borrow from my 401k to afford ivf because my insurance didn't cover a thing. Hoping at least one embryo sticks. I say start with the iui first due to cost of ivf. Good luck with your journey!
  • ah_511ah_511 Posts: 80
    I am 37. 6 failed IUIs so far. No known issues. I am going to talk to my doctor about possible ultrasounds in-between to be sure that the timing is right. Due to cost I am not sure how many IUIs I want to do without some further testing.
  • Erodriguez1215Erodriguez1215 Posts: 17
    I am 33 and I'm having my very first IUI next week. It seems to be the least expensive procedure so I would recommend that. Good luck!
  • SpiritSpirit Posts: 3
    I am 38 yrs old and did my first IUI cycle today with donor 11168. This two week period is going to be a challenge. I feel sensations of sporadic tingling and cramping in my uterus area. I'm assuming this is normal.
  • Erodriguez1215Erodriguez1215 Posts: 17
    Sending lots of Baby dust your way Spirit!!!

    Liz
  • HopefulforbabyHopefulforbaby Posts: 8
    Good luck to everyone in the process of trying or getting ready to. My first try will be the end of March. Nervous excitement is the only way to explain how I feel. :)
  • mountainbabymountainbaby Posts: 1
    I did 3 IUIs. Got pregnant on the first, had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. No pregnancy the second, and am 32 weeks pregnant off the third. I was 40 when I started and just turned 42. My doctor was the head of the Columbia Medical School Fertility Center. This was his advice (which I didn't precisely follow):

    - Try IUI 3x, if you don't get pregnancy by then, swtich to IVF.
    - If you turn 41 before you're pregnant, switch to IVF

    The odds of getting pregnant based on IUI (with or without Clomid) after age 40 are 10% each time. If your insurance covers some fertility treatment (say 10k), then there is a reason to be more aggressive and move to IVF faster (ie before you use the insurance money up on a low success rate option). The other benefit of IVF is that they test chromosones before hand and you're less likely to have a miscarriage due to chromosonal issues.

    Hope that helps and good luck!!
  • sakatia7sakatia7 Posts: 6
    I am 40 and suddenly realized and shocked that 10 years went by where I intensely wanted a 2nd baby (and many more). The 1st method (finding Mr. Right) proved to be not reliable, so I am looking at these amazing options we have now (IUI or IVF). It's so new to think about these methods, and then to be pregnant by myself and raise a baby by myself....? Ugh. I'm now trying to bring myself to order the vial(s) and then just go for it.

    Thanks for all the info, guys!
  • BellasMomBellasMom Posts: 27
    I got pregnant on my 3rd IUI. Two eggs fertilized. Around 7-8 weeks I lost one -they called it a vanishing twin. All my doctors - RE, regular OB and high-risk OB (for over 35) thought everything looked good with the second one. Unfortunately at 13 weeks I was given devastating news that my baby had chromosomal abnormalities and wouldn't make it. I had to have a d&e and I'm just heartbroken. It was a baby girl with donor 13866. The doctors did further testing and found it was just completely unlucky, random occurrence and that it was nothing caused by me or the donor. I'm awaiting my first period after d&e and have an appt with my RE tomorrow. They say you are very fertile after having just been pregnant. I have 3 vials left- had been saving them for a sibling. I am turning 37 next week and as long as my RE agrees I plan to try another IUI next month. My insurance doesn't cover anything with IUI or IVF, not even meds. So it has been a very emotionally, physically and financially draining process. I won't give up on my dream of becoming a mother so have to push through! I pray it works on the first round so I can still have vials left for future sibling as my donor is now sold out.
    For those of you trying, if you haven't already I'd suggest getting your tubes flushed- it's uncomfortable but quick procedure and its supposedly very successful for next months cycle. Worked for me. Also try acupuncture- very true believer in its assistance in fertility not just for me but for several friends who had issues. Good luck and baby dust to us all!
  • nestinglanestingla Posts: 14
    I'm 38 and doing this on my own too!

    Anyway, I've written a blog that chronicles my journey down the path to motherhood as a single woman. Picking a donor, IUIs, ovulation sticks, logistical things like timing the tank, learning about IVF and most recently, discovering I have endometriosis.

    The goal is to get the word out there, so that women like me, don't think it's such a crazy far stretch of a thing to do- become a mom via anonymous sperm donor, that is. To hopefully help other women like me feel less alone. And to feel empowered. Maybe to learn things I wish I knew about when I started. And to laugh a little. Here's the link if you're interested! http://nestinginla.com

    Sending my very best wishes to all of you :)
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