Advice for a soon-to-be single mother
kbecerra7
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I am starting out on this journey alone and need some good support and advice....my husband is leaving me and our 4 year old son...I just turned 40 and decided about 3 years ago if I didn't have another child by 40 I would start this process. I will be doing it by myself. Nervous, anxious, having doubts etc. But it is something I truly want. I have a GREAT income and can support 2 children alone easily. Just looking for some advice I guess. I have unexplained infertility and it took 6 years to get my son (unmedicated). First appointment is in a couple weeks to see what the options are. Even though I have a good income, IVF is not covered by insurance in MN and I can't afford the hefty price for it. ($20K or more) Considering IUI. Also want the donor to look as much like my husband (soon to be separated) as possible so my son and his half sibling will look alike....need a latino/Mexican/Hispanic donor. Looked through the catalog, but of course the one that really caught my eye has retired from the program :( Back to square one. Also a bit nervous about the family dynamics of one child with my husband and one with a donor. Its all very complicated, but if I don't have a second child, or at least really try, I will regret it for the rest of my life....
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I wish you the best of luck!
Sorry to hear about your situation, but I admire you for carrying on and thinking about trying for another child. My husband left me and my then 2 year old son for another woman in 2006. I always wanted to try for baby #2, but he'd always say he wasn't ready. Well, six months after he left us his girlfriend got pregnant - now they have two kids! My son is now 5 years old and has ADHD, but I have been ready to have another baby for 3 years now. I don't have any infertility issues and will be starting my first IUI in February. Sometimes we are faced with having to make tough decisions, and I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
I had my heart set on him. 11757. Now back to the drawing board.....sigh
And I could not get in to my account. I end up calling ccb to see what happed to everyone because it happened over night that everyone was sold out. But lucky everyone had virals available because it was something wrong with ccb’s computer system. Ever since then I know have six donors to chose from so if is sold out or retried I always have more to choose from. As well as picking don or that looks like you’re ex you do the look a likes and see pictures of famous people your donor resembles or you can pay for the ccb service where they find your best matches for you by providing a photo .