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jenn0977jenn0977 Posts: 97
in Single Mothers by Choice
Hi All! What is the general feeling about Open Donors? Does anyone know exactly what information CCB offers for open donors? Thanks!

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  • SweetthearttSweettheartt Posts: 373
    Yes, I know. CCB will try to keep up to date contact info on the donor over the years. The donor has agreed to one contact w/ offspring from age 18 on. This is usually in the form of a letter or email. This is not ironclad. The donor is free to change his mind later. I struggle with this a lot. So far I've only chosen open donors, but if there were an anonymous donor I would greatly prefer I would go with him. Nothing is set in stone. An anonymous donor might respond and an open donor might not. But is one single email worth it? Of course, more contact is a possibility.
  • crystal307crystal307 Posts: 49
    It sounds like CCB will approach the anonymous donor if the child requests this after 18. So... that leads me to wonder if choosing anony or open even matters at all! I'm getting the sense that it doesn't really matter either way since (from what I have read, though, haven't confirmed directly with CCB) whether the donor is open or not, the donor doesn't have to respond. Hmmm.... please correct me if I am wrong here.
  • crystal307crystal307 Posts: 49
    It sounds like CCB will approach the anonymous donor if the child requests this after 18. So... that leads me to wonder if choosing anony or open even matters at all! I'm getting the sense that it doesn't really matter either way since (from what I have read, though, haven't confirmed directly with CCB) whether the donor is open or not, the donor doesn't have to respond. Hmmm.... please correct me if I am wrong here.
  • SweetthearttSweettheartt Posts: 373
    No the donor is saying is making the promise in good faith that he will respond but there is no legal recourse. After all the donor might be dead, he might get married and his wife convince him not to, he might leave the country, he might fall out of touch with the Cryobank. That being said an anonymous do might change his mind and respond. Every offspring may send a letter at 18. All that being said I would prefer to choose someone who, at least at this point, is open to contact unless ther is an anonymous donor that is far superior in my mind.
  • jenn0977jenn0977 Posts: 97
    Thanks! I'm glad to know that there is a possible chance for an anonymous donor to be contacted. Most of my choices have been open, but of course I have that one that is anonymous that I can't take off my top 5!
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