My First time

Arieb

hello guys. I was afraid to post at first, but after reading through many discussions I see I came to the right place. I had my first consultation on Tuesday and Im praying for my first IUI next cycle. I've been on here for hours and I think I found my donor. I'm extremely nervous, very excited and tremendously anxious. I was told I may PCOS but it wasn't a definite. I don't have a support system. My family is totally against me doing this. Not only alone but period. I just keep hearing the sound of my baby's laugh and I push foward. I have to. I could use a little advice and alot of prayer. My prayers go out to all of you guys trying and I wish you the best of luck.


o I do have a question...how did you guys decide on a donor? Like what just made you say "THIS IS MY BABY!!!"?

olearye

Hi and welcome to the group. The women on here are a wonderful support system. I am so sorry to hear that you do not have a support system but like I said we are all here to support one another. The decision to have a baby and bring a life into this world is one that an individual has to make for themselves, I hope your family and friends do come through for you.

As for my search and decision, I narrowed down to a few characteristics and wrote some donors down and then when I was getting more serious I purchased the full subscription to see the donor childhood photos, hear their voice, etc. and honestly my top choices were on my original list. For me, it was just a feeling I got feeling connected to a donor vs other donors and that is how I made my decision,

Best wishes and baby dust to you

becky1141

Welcome Arieb! It must be very difficult to not have your family supporting your decision. I hope you have a support system of friends. Hopefully once you have a beautiful baby your family will realize they made a big mistake!

As far as choosing a donor I agree with Olearye. However another thing I looked at very closely before narrowing down "my feelings" were the medical history. I looked at the medical history first and if I didn't like the medical history I wouldn't even look at the rest of the profile. So first I put in characteristics that matched my family (brown or blond hair, blue eyes), next I looked at medical history, then I just looked for the "good feeling". I hope that helps!

Best of luck and don't hesitate to lean on this support system!

jaimec

Welcome!! I can't imagine how hard that is to not have family support and I hope they come around for you.

Medical history was the biggest factor for me when choosing a donor. Also put thought into the open/anonymous. I originally wanted anonymous, but then decided I need to leave that door open for my child. I also went for physical characteristic such as hair and eye color that matched mine.

melissaprestwood

Hi Arieb! You have a huge support system here. I think once your family meets the baby, they will forget all about how you conceived.

As far as choosing the donor, same as everyone else. Looked at physical characteristics close to mine (blonde hair, blue eyes) then figured if he fit the description of the type of guy I usually date, I'd like to make a baby with him. LOL. From there I looked at medical history, I definitely wanted a good medical background. Once I had it narrowed to a handful I got the subscription and chose by photos. I was drawn to the same donor over and over again...I went to dinner with a group of girlfriends and let them look at the donors and vote...and they overwhelmingly voted for the one I was leaning toward and that is who I chose.

Good luck. Keep us posted.

Arieb

I appreciate this so much. Thank you guys this means the world to me. My main deciding factor that i look at first is Medical History and i like to read the staff impression. God willing my insemination is for next cycle so I will keep you guys posted...good luck to you guys as well!!!!