Any Single Mothers w/ advice to give?

littlerose84littlerose84 Posts: 2
in Single Mothers by Choice
Has anyone..like, is there info or advice any experienced single mothers who've gone though this, can give me? I'm very new to this and I'd like to know things before I go really getting into it. (I like to do my homework) -Know what to expect, from the experience of other (single) mothers.

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  • abbyjennaabbyjenna Posts: 126
    Hi littlerose! Are you on Facebook? We have an awesome group that we've started for single women. There's something like 45 of us in there now, at all stages of this process. Lots of support and advice in there.

    The group is secret, so if this is not public to your facebook friends, they won't know anything. If you are interested, email me at abbyjenna@gmail.com and I'll let you know where to find me on Facebook.
  • UnknownUnknown
    Hi,

    I'm getting ready to do IVF in a couple of weeks and am doing is solo. I would love to become part of this Facebook group.

    Smile,

    Tina
  • abbyjennaabbyjenna Posts: 126
    Super, Tina! Search that email on facebook and friend me. Then I can let you in the group :)
  • UnknownUnknown
    Abby, thank you for letting everyone here know about the group! I haven't been on this board for awhile!!!

    Littlerose, I'm not a single mother yet. I'm still going through the process. But the best advice I can give at this point is to: 1. lessen the stress in your life as much as possible, 2. eat well 3. listen to your doctors. 4. Start to temp with a basal body thermometer. 5. Take a prenatal vitamin starting now, if you haven't already. 6. Read as much as you can on understanding the subject of fertility. 7. choose a doctor/RE that you're comfortable with and don't be afraid to ask questions. 8. Finally, pray.

    Like I said, I'm not pregnant yet. But, these are some of the things I'm doing to help me along in the process.
  • Marie03Marie03 Posts: 2
    I am getting ready to do my first IUI in a few weeks and will be a single mom. I never thought i would be doing this alone but i am 40 and have never been married or had kids and always wanted them. This is my first post. Just wondering how painful is the procedure. Also if this works what's your thoughts on what to put on the birth certificate for father. Also when your child starts to ask who their father is what do you say?
  • abbyjennaabbyjenna Posts: 126
    IUI doesn't hurt at all. It takes about 5 minutes, if that.

    I think what you put on the birth certificate depends on the state. My guess would be that you leave that part blank.

    I'm planning to tell my kid from the get-go about its donor. Just that I always wanted to be a mommy, but I didn't have a daddy for it (the baby), so a nice man somewhere helped out.

    Marie - there's a great facebook group for single women in our situation. Let me know if you want to join. It's totally private - no one on facebook knows you're in it except those of us already in it.
  • Marie03Marie03 Posts: 2
    Thanks for the good advice. I might just have to break down and join Facebook I think I might me the only person not on yet
  • UnknownUnknown
    Hi Marie03. Just like with Abby, the IUI did not hurt me at all. Although, to be honest, there are some women who say it hurt. I believe it depends on your body. But many women say it doesn't hurt. And Abby is right about the birth certificate. Laws differ from stat to state. I plan to tell my child something very similar to what Abby plans to tell her child. My child will know from the very beginning what his/her origins are. Finally, we would love to have you on our facebook page. You can contact Abby or you can contact me at cmgentryb@yahoo.com or Jennifer at Jennifer7170@msn.com.
  • ACbabyACbaby Posts: 0
    Hello,

    I am also very new at this and am doing research to get information. I too, never thought I'd be in this situation, but I know I want to be a mother.
    However I just found out I am not covered for ANY procedures under my health coverage. Are there any financial assistants available?

    Has anyone tried doing the procedures at home?

    Does anyone have any advice for someone starting out?
  • trini778trini778 Posts: 18
    Hello,

    I have had 3 unsucessful IUI's and am looking to do IVF next month and was wondering would I be able to join the facebook page. From past experience I know how important it is to have someone to talk to in the same situation.
  • baby67890baby67890 Posts: 156
    i would like to know about the facebook cus am going through alot right i really need the suport
  • makelly3makelly3 Posts: 15
    are you aware of the SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE organization? http://www.singlemothersbychoice.org/ you can join and go to monthly meetings, which are great because there are women trying to have a baby, women who already have their babies, newsletters that talk about how to tell your child who his/her "daddy" is, etc. sounds like a good thing for you to look into.

    i have a beautiful 3.5 year old boy. his birth certificate says "none" where the father line is. i too plan on explaining everything to him the minute he asks, which seems to be any day now.

    i did both IUI and IVF. IUI did not hurt me and i kept thinking that compared to birth, it was nothing. and then of course what everyone else told me, which was any pain will be a faded memory when you finally have your child.

    stay strong.
  • MKS2012MKS2012 Posts: 18
    I am new to this process as well and would be interested in joining the facebook group. I am interested in hearing how others are working their way through this process.

    Thanks!
  • dmz815dmz815 Posts: 21
    I am a single mom, I just sent a request for the facebook page. I had 7 iui with one miscarriage inbetween, I don't think it was painful, some slight cramping at times but not bad at all, as silly as this may sound both times I got pregnant I drank so much water I almost peed myself and my dr did say a full bladder is helpful........ My son is 8 months old, I would love to do it again in another 2 years but age may be a factor I will be 40 next month. I am grateful for the one I have I enjoy him every day :) I may be one of the only ones to say so but I enjoyed every minute of my pregnancy up to and including the delivery, I did take an epidural and can honestly say other than being queasy the entire time it was a wonderful experience.
  • tingodtingod Posts: 32
    I am new to this too, I would like to join you on facebook. I will be getting my 1st IUI this month, I am excited, scared, and hopeful.
  • dmz815dmz815 Posts: 21
    Baby dust to you tingod. :)
  • abbyjennaabbyjenna Posts: 126
    Just an FYI because I've been getting a lot of emails lately... there is NO Facebook group anymore for Single Moms. It's gone.
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