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I'm single and alone too
wonderlust
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I'm 34 and decided that I am tired of waiting to be a mom..I'm ready..just haven't met a good guy yet..they are all married and online dating and church didn't work for me..I'm have narrowed it down to few donors..have an appointment with the ob monday..I'm living in oklahoma and work as an r.n. in oklahoma it is rare for women to use sperm donors and a friend of mine attacked me over it because she says I'm not waiting on god..it's my life though and I'm excited . I worked in the neonatal intensive care unit for six years and was tired of taking care of someone else's child even though I loved them ..Def ready for my own or at least the possibility ..feels lonely here too..get mixed reactions from people
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mybabybug16
I'm 33 next summer and I a going to start this process in the New Year!
40, single, and ready to be a mom. My doctor told me "You have the rest of your life to find the love of your life, but you do not have the rest of your life to have a child." That did it for me. I'm IN. Going to inseminate for the first time after my next cycle.
Ladies…We've got this! Nobody has to understand our process but us. We don't owe anyone an explanation, nor is it necessary that they "get it". As long as we get it.
Best wishes to all.
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I did an IUI this month, with trigger shot. So we'll see. If it didn't work, I'll be at peace with it. I did one in July last year and that didn't work. This one I think has more chance to work because of the shot and because it was monitored.
I really hope I have a girl, as being single I'm kind of scared of raising a boy alone. I do live with my father (he's 75 but has more energy than me!), my mom is dead. I also live with my 48 year old divorced sister. She works. Sometimes my 26 year old niece lives with us, when her husband is treating her bad! (which is quite often, and he's 54, he should be over the moon to have her!)
Anyway, good luck to you all.
What upsets me is, I'm Catholic, and the church doesn't approve of this type of thing, and I called a priest this month because I almost couldn't get to do the IUI due to a blizzard and I was afraid God was against my procedure. And he told me flat out that down deep I must think this is wrong and that's why I believed the storm was out to get me.
But it's not that, it just seemed weird that when I needed to do my procedure, it was the worst blizzard we've ever had. And it's not like I could just keep putting this off. I'll be 41 in September, and the older I am the worse the labor might be.
So yeah, I mean it kind of upsets me that people put us down when there are plenty of teens who have babies, people having babies in less than ideal circumstances, are their children "wrong"? So I don't appreciate children being born of donors to single mothers as being called "wrong". I don't believe in telling any person they weren't meant to be or they are "wrong" to be here. If God lets it work, then I will trust that He wants the child to be here.
One of the major problems in the world is the negativity people put out there to others when we should be showing love, compassion and support.
Baby dust to all!!